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writes:Dear Cupids, There's this girl that I'm CRAZY FOR. She says that I'm her "favorite guy" and that she'd "rather hang out with me than any of her other guy friends." We talk every day and I've been building up the courage to ask her out, when I found out recently that SHE HAS A BOYFRIEND! So, I asked her about him and she told me that he went through like, 6 "girlfriends" last year and that he "only wants to make out with her face." What kind of a good relationship is based on that? I'm scared that she's gonna get hurt. She wants to break up with him, but she's not confident enough! Back to the point: I love her with every fiber of my being, but she's in a dead-end relationship and, what's worse, I don't know if she likes me in the same way that I like her, even though I'm her "favorite guy." What should I do? Sincerely, A madly, in-love guy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 January 2012): Rebeccaa is absolutely right. The best you can do is be there for her when she needs it, whenever that may be. You can be her friend, you SHOULD be her friend, if you can take it. Do what you guys mormally do and just enjoy her company. If it really gets to you, the back off for a bit and let yourself 'clear your head' so to speak so you do not do anything rash.
But you can not pressure her or try anything while she has a bf. Until she is single, she is denied to you man.
Its tough advice and i feel your pain, ive been there when i was a little older than you. Halfway through my own junior year i fell hard for one of my friends. Not the closest of friends like in your case, but a friend nevertheless. I though she was the most amazing thing in the world, but of course she was with some kind of sleaze. Well i found myself in your situation and decided to do something (ask her out, tell her how i really felt, tell her he is no good, etc) like the naive and ignorant fool that i was, needless to say i lost her forever. Now i have to live with that and trust me, its a kind of hell you want no part of. Better to take the hurt you have now and keep a friend, besides you never know what the future holds.
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reader, Rebeccaa  +, writes (2 January 2012):
 Hey,
You may not want to hear this, but you should let her decide what she wants to do, step back and just be there for her (not too much tho)
This guy shes dating sounds awful! However its her decison to be made.
Maybe she is coming to you because of the lack of attention she gets from her boyfriend, and she looks for it else where? so think about that, she could be using you for an ego boost maybe, although i maybe wrong.
If she does break up with him then by all means go for it, i dont think her boyfriend, would care anyway, as he just wants to 'make out with her face'!
All the best
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 January 2012): At the moment you should do nothing. It doesn;t matter if she wants to break up with her boyfriend, or that the relationship is dead-end, until she actually breaks up with her boyfriend, she is off-limits and you should do nothing at all. I know it hurts and I have been in this situation before myself, but the only thing you can do is respect that she has a boyfriend and therefore you do nothing towards her romanically. Honestly no-one respects someone who goes after someone else's gf or bf, and she will respect you more for not going after her when she is taken. Good Luck.
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