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writes:Dear Cupids, I am a very strong Believer and follower of Jesus Christ (in other words, I'm a Christian) and I think I'm in love with a girl that isn't Christian. Is this alright? Should I go for this girl and ask her out? Sincerely, A madly in-love guy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 January 2012): Christian here.
First of all, I certainly think that you should respect her beliefs, whether you pursue a relationship or not. You shouldn't coerce her into being a Christian, BUT... have you thought that maybe someday she might become a Christian? The best way to be a witness to someone is through your actions and good deeds (not saying that non religious people are not good people), don't pressure her to believe differently than she does but just be an example through your actions.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 January 2012): *sighs*
In Wisdom, keep to dating those of similar belief systems as they tend to also share similar values, standards, lifestyle.
Also, to a Christian or Spiritual person, speaking of spiritual, scriptual, faith inspiring topics, which we believe is a great aspect of whom we are; could be wounding over time.
Validation of beliefs helps promote trust, open, honest communciation.
From a Woman, Mother, and Daughter of Christians that learnt the tough way that my parents full well knew what they spoke of when teaching me this valuable standard.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 January 2012): sure why not. as long as you don't try to convert her, and as long as she doesn't make rude remarks about your religion.
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reader, Miamine  +, writes (2 January 2012):
 At 13-15 religion shouldn't matter, and if your parents approve then it should be alright to date her.
Make one rule though... Do not discuss religion with her. You have your faith, she has her beliefs, a relationship isn't about changing people to suit in with your values.
You should respect her and what she values, and she should respect you and your faith... leave it at that, and stay away from discussions around God and the bible.
This is hard sometimes for a strong believer to do... even in this post I can see you can't make a sentence without praising your religion. For non-believers like me (atheist) this is a turn off and very offensive.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (2 January 2012):
 as long as you can accept her religious beliefs as hers and respect them I see no problem with it...
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (2 January 2012):
 If you can accept that she doesn't have the same belief as you and doesn't live in the same way, then sure go out with her.
If you think you will make her see the "light" so she can be your perfect mate, then no.
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reader, bearN  +, writes (2 January 2012):
 There is no harm in dating with her, letting her know you love her. It will be better if you could convert her into your religion. That will surely solve things out. But that's later. Now, you're young have fun and lover her wholeheartedly!!!
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reader, Gabrielle Stoker +, writes (2 January 2012):
 Not if you're expecting her to become a believer like yourself. That's not the sort of thing you should or can impose on another person.
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reader, YouWish +, writes (2 January 2012):
 You're 13-15? From the sound of this question, it sounds like you've been taught things from your parents and from church about dating people who are "non-Christian" and have been taught passages of scripture from the New Testament such as "don't be unequally yolked" and such. Are your parents strict? Have they put restrictions on who you date? Would you have to resort to being secretive or hiding it from your parents?I will tell you this:Just because someone says they're Christian, goes to church, or is even active in ministry doesn't make them a wise choice to date. You already know that there's enough things to be wary about within the Church body as there are outside of it, or the divorce and adultery rate wouldn't be just as high in the church as it is outside. Pick who you date based on her character, rather than her outward profession. She may say she's a Christian, but she could have a horrible temper, or be wildly erratic in emotions, or maybe is mean to her siblings or disrespectful and dismissive to her parents. On the other hand, you might meet a girl (maybe this one!) who doesn't go to church 4 times per week, isn't active in youth group, but would be the most loyal, loving, caring, patient, and kind girl you might ever have the honor of knowing.My point? It's nothing to say you're a Christian. Actions are everything. Date her based on her character, not her religious resume. However, I will tell you this, you know it's not Christian to lie or deceive your parents or go behind their back if they've placed restrictions on you. If they're strict on you, you might have to have a long chat with them.
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reader, Starlights +, writes (2 January 2012):
 I come from a muslim faith/background so i understand what your experiencing.My answer is this... religion :DOES NOT MATTER. Good people can come in any shape and size, from any colour and from every country.What matters is the heart of the person you like... if they display compassion, kindness, openness, warmth, intelligence, acceptance, faith, love, humility... these ARE THE SIGNS of someone who is GOOD/positively charged.You cannot base that linked to what religion they come from.So if she displays these qualities and you are in love with her... GO FOR IT... prehaps you can learn a few things from her.I also add here: Don't ever push your beliefs to anyone else, rather let them want to know/seek of your beliefs first.I hope this helps you!
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