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writes:I hate the fact that i can't get rid of this feeling and have to come back here and ask you guys for advices.I got married 8 months ago to a loving man of more than 3 years relationship. He's not perfect but he's the greatest one. Only him can make me laugh that way and feel so happy. I love him dearly but it's never been a burning flame when i look at him. Happened a few months ago that my best female friend kissed me at the pub. The way she touched me and kissed me sent me to heaven. It turned out that I took her to the restroom to have a proper make out. I started to fancy her after that but i forced myself cut the contact with her for a week. Then i stopped thinking about her that way anymore. We're fine again. But anytime i accidentally dreamed of something bit kinky with her involved, i felt tempted again.For ages i've felt lesbians are so cute and sexy. But i love men the way they are, i love the straight sex with men, but women especially my best friend gives me that burning flame in my belly that i would do anything just to grab her and kiss her.I love my husband so much and want to have a small family with him and our future kids. But this on and off feeling disturbs me so much. Please do advise me what to do if i am really bi.Thanks for reading.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (8 May 2013):
 I don't see that the gender of your temptations ( female instead than male ) makes any difference in a very clear cut situation. You are married, aren't you ? You want to keep your marriage and have a loving family with your husband.
Then, you are not supposed to cheat. You can't cheat. Neither with males nor with females. Cheating is cheating and the fact that you've got the hots for a female friend, rather than for a male friend, does not give you a free pass for kissing and fooling around, or more, with them, behind your husband's back.
It may be uncomfortable to deal occasionally with your fire in the belly, then again , for all you know, your husband too might feel fire in the belly when he sees that cute young waitress or that sexy lady next door, and I am sure that if you catch him kissing them and he says " but I HAD to, I felt fire in my belly "- you won't be much impressed.
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reader, NORA B  +, writes (8 May 2013):
This is ery dificult situation for you and not easy to handle .You are very lucky to have a loving relationship with your husband so do not to put this in danger at any level.However your other feelings Must be sorted out sooner then later.I would suggest for you to go to a counsellor immediatly and talk out your feelings and ask for help .You cannot sort this out yourself.Kind Wishes Nora B.
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