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writes:Last year after a very intense relationship of which I was 16 he ended it so I wanted to end my life and tried to do so. This year in April I met a guy at my church group, he is kind and treats me ok, so far not tried to use me, which is nice. We are good friends, but he is so possessive , wants to know where I am always phoning even at night .This is getting too much because though I have told him It is carrying on.The latest thing is he is so religious has said my parents will not go to heaven due to a prayer and has said more than once he will kill himself if I ended it Is this emotional blackmailHow can I make him feel securePs A couple of weeks ago I kissed a guy asI am so confused Do you think I love this guy or should I let him go Alicia
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 October 2009): Open up your Bible and go to 1 Cor 13. My dear if you are confused about what love is, that will spell it out for you. Not only the love that God wants us to experience in relationships, but the one that He gives us - no matter who you are or if you're saved or not etc. No one on this earth can take in their hands the role of God. Your boyfriend doesn't have the say on who gets into heaven or not, and I would run far away from him fast. Just because he isn't trying to be manipulative doesn't mean that he isn't. The fact that he said that he would kill himself if you left him is classic manipulation and fighting for control. Don't let him shape your thoughts, opinions or beliefs in such a negative, wrong way.
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reader, HereAreMyTwoCents  +, writes (7 October 2009):
 Yeah, this is emotional blackmail, and it also very immature. I think you should let this guy go without batting an eye. If you stay with him you are going to end up with a psycho jealous possessive religious fanatic on your hands.
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