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writes:My girlfriend that I have been steady with for 5 months doesn't view sex the same way I do. She is very religious while I am not. However, we don't fight about religious views yet she won't do many sexual things because of it.She is very innocent, she doesn't know any sexual things, etc. We finally reached the point where she will give me hand jobs on her own and I finger her often.Unfortunately she HATES to take off her clothes and it always ends up that I take her clothes off slowly. She will then make an excuse up that she is cold...What should I do?
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reader, hello1  +, writes (19 November 2007):
 Leave her alone, find another g/f who will have sex with you. She dosen't want that and properly dosen't till she's married or at least older, if you keep forcing her she will end up dumping you or you will have sex but when she's older she'll properly dislike you big time for forcing her and going against her belifes.
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reader, 4Tee +, writes (17 November 2007):
First of all, you are only 16 years old. She is probably still a virgin and definately does not know alot about sex. We've all been there. She also probably has fears of getting pregnant. Because of her age, I have to agree with the "if you love her slow down" idea. You need to teach her. You could make or break her like or dislike of sex. Be gentle, handle her softly. If you do not love her, do not take her virginity, that is selfish. You need to understand that sex is NOT love.
However, as you grow older and are looking for a spouse, remember that sex is an important part of a marriage and has destoyed some. If you two have different views on sex, it will eventually become an issue in your relationship. It sounds like you enjoy sex and are NOT a virgin. Your hormones are raging dude, slow down and become a teacher, it could be fun!
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 November 2007): As a religious woman myself I hate it when boyfriends try to manipulate me into doing something sexual I don't want to do. I've ended hating everything I did with them and looking back with disgust towards their mundane lust and the memory of their faces. That's what will happen to you if you don't stop it. It's as if one can't have a decent relationship nowadays. It's always about the stupid sex. A woman wants a man to love her for what they can share not because of the pleasures of the flesh a woman can give to a man.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 November 2007): If you really love the girl...you can wait when shes ready to give up everything,,,coz you know what we girls still have doubts about that kind of stuff because if ever you guys break up,,its not so painful to the girl..Dont force her because if you do,,,your feeling for her is not love only lust.
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reader, Frank B Kermit  +, writes (17 November 2007):
 You stop dating a girl that has different views about sex than you do.
Find someone else.
-Frank B Kermit
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (17 November 2007):
 What should you do? You should stop pressuring your girlfriend into going any faster than she wants to. If she's not comfortable, you should NOT be pressing for more.
If you can't respect her boundaries, perhaps it is time for you to find a new girlfriend...
Good luck, sweetness.
xxIndia
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reader, lilgirly  +, writes (17 November 2007):
 hey,
do you love her?because if you do ,stop making her do things she doesn't want to do! this girl has a religion, and faith! so respect that!
she tried to do her best to make you happy!but you still aren't, take it slow on her , you know she loves you that's why she is doing all these things she doesn't wanna do.
byeXXX
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reader, thatgothgirl20 +, writes (17 November 2007):
 If you really love her, you will stop pressuring her into doing things that she does not want to do. You will wait for her.
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reader, AsianXAnon +, writes (17 November 2007):
 Don't force her to anything she isn't comfortable. First of that will be rape, and secondly you will come off as a douche bag. The key to a good relationship is RESPECT and if you don't have it, then it's basically shot to hell. If all you want is sex, then I'm sorry, she doesn't deserve you, and you should just find someone who will give it to you. If you do truly love and care about her RESPECT her, don't make her to anything she doesn't want to. She will do it on her own.
But at this point hun, you just sound like a douche bag for trying to make a girl, or find a way to make a girl, who obviously believes in her religion and views of sex, do things she obviously isn't ready for yet.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 November 2007): she is obviously insecure about her body, and she is worried of how you will look at her(is sh beautiful enough etc.) If she is very religious, you should accept that she will only go so far with you without hesitating. In order for her to go farther, maybe you should support her more often with her viewws on religion. Good Luck.
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