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writes:Hello,I've got this problem. My girlfriend stopped seeing her former "best" friend. The reason is long time ago, when she was a kid, she was telling mean things about her. Everytime she forgave her. I don't understand why, because everytime she continued. She told me she was crying many times because of her. Now after leaving school she stopped seeing her and after 5 months she was together with her in a restaurant. But not because she wanted to be with her but because she wanted to meet other friends from former school and she was there. After this she cryied because she just couldnt stand her talks. My question is if I should do something about it. The problem is she told me like 5 months before that she will finally tell her everything that she doesn't like her and so. And now when she had the opportunity she said she can't do it. I told her I will do it for her. But she said no way that is her thing and doesn't want me to have anything to do with it. It sounded serious. I'm very sad because I love her and I don't want it to continue. It's just that everytime she wants to go out with her friends she is there because she's part of the group. What should I do? Please help me. Thank you Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 November 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 November 2007): Honey don't get so involved in her situation. It's not healthy. Your job here is to listen to her and support her and to let her mature as a woman figuring out a way to fix this alone. She needs to learn how to deal with this situation for herself.
It might take years for her to confront this person (if she ever does it) but it's something she has to do herself because that's the only way she'll get clousure.
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reader, thatgothgirl20  +, writes (17 November 2007):
 Let her handle this. Hopefully she will eventually become fed up and stand up for herself.
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