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writes:What kind of things do high school boys like in a girl for them to like that girl? Do they need to look, act, and dress in a certain way for that guy to like them? Is it better to try and be their friend first? But more importantly, what kind of personality does a guy like in a girl? Reply to this Question
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reader, Odds  +, writes (13 February 2011):
 The more important question is what you are looking for. You have to have a specific goal in mind.
Want one guy in particular? Go talk to him, pay attention to him, talk about things he's interested in, and find subtle ways to touch him during your interactions. Want lots of attention for free? Dress as sluttily as the dress code will allow - short skirts, cleavage, that sort of thing - then smile a lot at any guy who talks to you. Want your pick of high-status guys like the quarterback? Combine the two strategies, dressing sluttily and paying attention to only the guys you're interested in.
For high school guys - and to a lesser extent, single guys of any age - hotness trumps all. How you dress is only an accessory to hotness. Take care of and emphasize yoru best features.
Personality is what takes attraction and turns it into commitment, but for basic dating, just don't be annoying or rude. To secure commitment (as opposed to just getting attention), be interesting to talk to, interested in what other people have to say, and respectful. Don't put out early on, but don't be a tease, either.
Most importantly, play it smart. Don't give your heart to a guy who isn't going to take care of it; or, if you're just looking for attention, don't be surprised when guys treat you badly.
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reader, sunandstars  +, writes (13 February 2011):
I don't think girls need to dress in a certain way to impress the guys, as long as you don't dress so appallingly that you would embarrass them in public, some guys like a girl who is fashionable and 'follows the crowd', while others will like a girl who has their own style and is confident enough to pull it off. You don't need to act in a certain way either, just don't be fake or try be something you're not, the right guy will like you for who you are, good and bad qualities, you don't need to pretend to be perfect. It probably is best to be their friend first yes, build the trust and get to know him properly first instead of going straight into a relationship then deciding you don't like him, avoid the early break ups, you're more likely to last longer if you know him first. A guy will like a caring, loyal, trustworthy, intelligent girl who can hold a conversation and has a sense of humour, but don't do these things if it's not in your nature, this is just an average guy I'm talking about, some guys will like other things, just be yourself. I hope this helps. x
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reader, innerfire +, writes (13 February 2011):
The number one thing a guy will look for in a girl to like them in a romantic way is physical attractiveness. This will always be an unpopular opinion because some people hate reality, but it's true. It's not shallow, but millions of years of human evolution. Being shallow is picking friends or coworkers based on physical attractiveness, but picking romantic partners on looks is completely normal. People who deny this often just happen to love the personality of physically attractive people.As far as what guys find attractive, obviously that depends heavily on the guy. I think their are some universal norms though, such as a healthy body weight, so if you are overweight you could eat better and exercise. Other than that, be yourself but look your best!As far as how you dress and act, again this varies heavily on the guy. Some guys like more provocative dress, some guys like more 'girl next door' types. I think you can often get a feel for this based on what type of guy it is you are trying to attract. I think geeky guys tend to prefer geeky girls, sport guys like sporty girls, etc. I do think that MOST guys (certainly not all) do like girls with a somewhat feminine appearance though, so a skirt or long hair can help.As far as personality, if you fake a personality to attract a guy the attraction is going to be fake. So be yourself. That doesn't mean don't change - there is a balance between improving yourself but sticking true to yourself.Finally, and really most importantly, having relationships in high school is not really as great as it seems at the time. Definitely focus more on your school work and interests, and if a relationship happens to evolve out of those, then great. I know it's easier said than done because high schoolers might feel more lonely than anybody with all of those hormones, but relationships aren't even that fun when you still live with your parents anyway. There are plenty of people who were date-less in high school and then had plenty of fun with the opposite sex afterwards - I was one of them :)
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