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writes:So I met this guy and the youth club who taught us a masterclass in physical theatre, he runs his own theatre company. I really fancied him a lot. And I think he was flirting with me. I never got the chance to get his number or details. However, a quick search on facebook has showed his profile. I'm not sure he's gay but I'm pretty certain he is. Now here is the problem, according to his fb profile he's in a relationship. I've only met him once but I have no idea how to open communication. I have no idea if the flirting was in my head. But either way I want to at least attempt to be mates with him, he seemed like a really nice guy. So how do I approach this? I figure if I send him a nice message and see how he responds? How can I test the waters? Either way I'd be interested in finding out about his work, so I could suggest I'd like to find out more. But I don't want to come across as too strong! I figure I have nothing to lose because if I don't make an effort he may never. But I also don't want to frighten him off, especially if he is seriously seeing someone. Help! Where do I start, what kind of message can I send him on facebook, that won't be too blunt but might ambiigously suggest I'm interested.
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reader, pepper27 +, writes (29 September 2008):
 Hi Hunny
You could start of by saying how much you enjoyed the time spent in the class as you are very interested in theatre and would love to no more as he owns his own company you were very curious how he got started as this has been a interest of your for awhile..Put it in a very casual way love and see what happens as you say you cant loose, You could make a good friend here if you get on well obviously if he is in a relationship you cant come across as iff you fancy him hun or he may run a mile so just a casual message and go from there..Hope this help hunny TAKE CARE WITH LOTS OF LOVE N HUGS MANDY XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
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reader, Deema +, writes (28 September 2008):
 OK. I got it now!!!! Technology!!! Well, you are pretty keen I can see that, so must be thinking about him a lot. BUT you do think he's in a relationship and you're not sure he's gay either. Hmmmmm. I'd say be very casual and respectful. Just show general interest in what he has to say on Facebook and see if you can find any similar interests you can discuss. You are going to have to take this one veeeeery slowly, even though you are raring to go, thats if you don't want to scare him off - fast. So be patient, just chat generally. If he's not gay he won't be too keen in bothering to speak with another man for long, and if he is but is not interested he will also do the same. But if he's interested then he will give you the information you want, and more, I would say. Just play it by ear. That way you don't end up losing your self-respect or making yourself look an arse. Good luck. Hope that helps.
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (27 September 2008):
You are listed here as in your 20's therefore you do not need to be playing games on facebook like a 13 yearold.
Send him a message saying you really liked his class and would like to meet up some time.
Good Luck!! xx
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