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writes:Hi All,I normally wouldn't ask a stranger online for some advice, and I want clarify from the very beginning that I want nothing at all from the person I will be talking about. I just need someone to explain what the heck is going on:I am a professional in the beginning of my 30s, and 2 years ago I was in a partnership with someone, and that girl used to work for him "we had independent entities", and after a few months she became my friend. I never thought of her as anything more as she was "and still" married to a guy. She doesn't really love him but this is not the story, and married is married for me I'd never think of anything.Anyway...I know a lot of girls, gorgeous ones, and however when this story happened I din't know her that much yet at the time, but every single night when I sleep, I had dreams about her, normal dreams, but with a fantastic feeling, and I mean every single night, even though I was not thinking about her during the day at all!!!When we got closer and started hanging out, my heart started beating for her like a teen who has never been with a woman before!!! VERY powerful feelings that it made me wonder what I am missing in life. I am sure she felt something back, may be not as strong as I felt, but I would personally guess there was something. Then I started thinking about her night and day, and during my sleep she never stopped coming to my dreams.We stopped hanging out. It was the best thing at the time because the relationship was becoming weird and featureless. However, shortly after, she got pregnant, and traveled back to her home country. I didn't know anything about her for months since then, then I sent her an email asking how she is, and we exchanged a few emails after. Then she did not answer the last email.This last email was three months ago, and to be honest I forgot totally about her. I knew there was no need to think about her, and practically I did not think about her.Today morning I woke up too early than usual. I decided to go somewhere outside to do some urgent work, and I thought of a random cafe' to go and finish my work. Suddenly while driving she invaded my mind, so I pulled over "despite the work urgency", and checked the personal email account to see whether there was something from her, and I found out that she sent an email long time ago which I hadn't seen, I decided to answer, but then decided to do the important work first.30 minutes ago I sat here, on this chair I am now sitting on, and started doing my work while a vision of her was still on my mind, when someone said "Hello". I looked and it was her with a beautiful baby!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I didn't even know she was in the country, so that must've explained to her the extreme disbelief that was on my face, but I am sure that you know exactly why the disbelief was extreme!!!!My question, after all this story, is stupid and very deep at the same time, and this is all what I am asking for:What kind of connection is this? I would never act on it or anything, I just wanna know if someone can explain this strange connection, or does it even have an explanation? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 April 2010): Thanks for answering. You're the only one who answered lol.
I can't say anything. Again she's married and just got a baby c'mon. But however I don't want anything from her. This is a very strong yet a very pure feeling / connection I reckon. I mean even if she were the most person I'd ever think of in my wildest wildest dreams, I still am not acting on it, unless situations changed dramatically in the future who knows? but if she's happy now it'd be very evil of me to wish things to change in the future.
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reader, sweetspicy  +, writes (8 April 2010):
 It sounds to me like you have a very deep spiritual relationship with this woman. I dont know if you belive in all that hocus pocus but it seems like there is a force here that is far greater than the ones seen to the naked eye. Perhaps she will show a significant meaning in your life, I for one do belive in fait and that things happen for a reason. You could always tell her how you feel about her and see what happens from there.
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