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writes:I really could cry i am so angry at the moment!!!Me and a co worker who were not that close, yesterday we were. He was flirting so was I. He is the quiet type in the office full of women, but with me he talks alot infront of alot people. He protects me- two people gave me hassle he took charge i didn't even ask him to. Yesterday he purposely bumped into me, said hello. He joked with me, flirted not friendly banter. Was so happy when he saw me massive grin. He is a typical old school man and he BLUSHED bright red when a female worker said sorry to interupt this get to gether. He was so talkative and happy smiling loads.Today he was so cold!!!!! WHY!Ignored me, didn;t make eye contact, when he did i couldn;t look at him! Then my button kinda popped open when i was taking notes next to him. He really couldn't see much at all maybe a bit of my skin on my chest. We spent 2hours on visits together me driving, I opened up to him about me nothing major just a little introduction about me. But still nothing!! Why so warm yesterday and sexy. Today nothing.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 December 2012): I am in similar situation, and can I say I did the exact same thing. One day, totally flirting, the next nothing. Why? Because as a man, I am trying NOT to be interested. Men usually have more of a risk at a work setting, due to sexual harassment. I know because at my last job, my boss tried to have me fired because I wouldn't go out with her. And she nearly succeeded because I am a male, they believed her over me because of that.
Sounds like he likes you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 November 2012): Hey, thank you for all your posts. I kind of agree with possible playing of difference being he only helps me! Even the other newbie who is blonde sexy he never helps. Just helps me.
But today by mistake or luck i found out he is married. and in car i said to him how long have you been married. he went quiet like shock quiet for a minute and said too long. then talked abit about his son.
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reader, Dorothy Dix  +, writes (22 November 2012):
Hi there. First of all, is this man about the same age as you - early to mid 20's?
When a person blushes around a member of the opposite sex, it often means they are attracted to that person.
It could also be that this man is rather shy, which could explain quite a lot.
And seeing as though your office environment is mostly women and just him, he is WAY outnumbered, isn't he?
So consequently, even more awkwardness.
Especially, as he is a little on the shy side anyway.
If he is seen to be talking mainly with one woman - yourself - he may also be very aware of how the other women in your office, could talk amongst themselves about a new romance starting up between you and him.
And women do talk amongst themselves about these things, don't they?
It's not so unusual for this to be the case.
And no doubt, these thoughts are going through his mind all the time.
And just supposing something did begin between you, it could make things very awkward indeed, should there be any lovers' quarrels between you both.
It would make things extremely uncomfortable for both of you, especially as you have to work together after all, don't you?
So you will have to be seeing each other every single day, which wouldn't be easy.
Office romances are fine just as long as things between those two people are going really well.
However, the moment there is any conflict, well then all hell can break loose!
This might be something worthy of your consideration in the meantime.
So from now on, just be friendly towards him, and without any expectation of something more.
Then you almost certainly will have no problems whatsoever.
Really now, the ball is in his court, as to what happens next in this situation.
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