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writes:I've just broken up with my boyfriend of 9 months. I loved him more than anyone in the world, i know i'm young but he was my first, i planned to have a future with him, even kids at one point, hes been there for me throughout everything, and i've been there for him throughout everything to. We have had problems in the past, we split up for a month about 3 months ago, due to him just not being able to commit to me, he cheated on me, was physically abusive at one point (i was too), and he seemed more interested in other girls and drugs and alchool instead of me. He sorted himself out changed everything for me, but we still ended up having arguements every week, we have days that are perfect and then we have arguements at the end of every week, the arguements are just horrible. He screams and shouts at me calls me every name under the son i do the same to him but to me it seems so direspectful considering everything i've done for him. Hes recently been made homeless and even though he did sort things out, i've had to mother him, i've had to look after his money, tell him to wash his clothes and wash himself, its riduculas. He will keep it up for a week and then go back to just not caring about himself. He seems to be way to immature sometimes, and sometimes i feel like i deserve better, or i feel like it will never work, I feel like he won't ever be able to be the man i want him too, its sad because i love him so much. I have a compulsive need to have someone who loves me not someone but him, i just can't let go he means the world to me, yet he can never keep up changing for more than a week 2 at most before theres something else i have to remind him to do or etc. I don't know what to do, tomorow i have to make a decison on wheather to give him another chance or not, I feel like it won't ever work, but this person has been the only boy i've ever managed to trust, i never thought id end up breaking up with him, i thought he was my soul mate, i know i'm young, but what should i do? How will i let go, i just don't know what to do anymore. Please help
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reader, junopeltz  +, writes (16 November 2012):
Try to date. Get out and have some fun... There for there's nothing much to think about. I know it's tough but there's always away.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 November 2012): I'm so sorry to hear how upset you sound by this whole business with your boyfriend of 9 months.It sounds to me as though you have had to deal with far too much in this relationship - and if there has been any kind of abusive behaviour, then it really is an unhealthy relationship.I'd say the same thing to someone of any age: relationships in the early stages are supposed to be enjoyable, fun and happy. If it isn't, then you should walk away.When people are abusive, unfaithful, or at a very different level of maturity, the relationship is simply doomed.You sound like a caring person who is looking for love. You need to let that love find you, try and enjoy being who you are rather than being part of this pretty awful-sounding situation, and move on.You WILL find the right person, but only if you learn to be happy about who YOU are first. The easiest people to love are those who are happy about who they are.Good luck, and remember - everything in life is temporary: pain passes.
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