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writes:I know this is a question most women ask but...What is with guys NOT texting back?Theres a guy I have known for about 3 years and we have always been friends work, abit of flirting sometimes but weve always been friends. We like each others photos on facebook and hes told me he thinks I look beautiful one day. The other week we decided to do something spare of the minute and go for a drive, grabbed a small lunch.. literally hung out for hours!! :)It was so much fun! we was laughing so much, having a great time. He was suggesting all these things we should do soon.. cinema, dinner, saying he'd going on nights out at the weekends.That was nearly 2 weeks ago, and since then we spoke a little on facebook. I thanked him for a fun day, and for paying/driving me around and he was all 'thats fine, anything for you :) it was great xx' I facebook messaged him a week later saying lets go out for food again today? what you up to? x but he didnt reply and wasnt online so i texted him too a few hours laterno reply... then next day he replied to my facebook telling me he had to re-do some paperwork . I said aw thats ok, did you sort it out? But he didnt reply :/ ...but understandable why he didnt want to do anything the day before :)so a few days later i text him just asking if hes managed to sort his paperwork out and asked him how he was...ignored!I think its so rude because we were friends; why wouldnt you reply to a friend; . Hes obviously got my texts because hes uploading photos to instagram shopping/with his friends/taking photos of his dog/on the bus ... and he cant take 2 seconds to text. He even liked my instagram earlier which makes it more annoyingHes done it before even before our little outgoing , not replying sometimes.but i just think its so rude; why?!!!!! I think he fancies me - like not on a 'i really like you' level but if a pretty girl who you had a great time with is texting you.. friends or more. why straight up ignore them!??
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reader, lovebug123123 +, writes (17 March 2014):
lovebug123123 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks for the replies.
He still hasn't messaged me back! so damn rude!
il just leave him too it, hes a good looking guy, hes probably invovled with someone else.
so sick of being single, grrr.
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reader, oldbag +, writes (15 March 2014):
 Maybe he took you out to test his feelings/attraction for you?
If the X factor isn't there for him and he knows you like him and possibly want more, then he is letting you know it isn't going to happen.
I would cease the contact, don't chase him, he isn't even being a 'friend' just now is he?
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 March 2014): I know, I can imagine this must be distressing if you feel ignored.Men and women are hardwired completely different, so I couldn't give a professional answer to your question as I am limited knowledge on understanding gender differences.What I do know is that there is something called sexual polarity, where the masculine and feminine attract. The problem is were living in a world were masculine energy is prided upon and the feminine is little understood.Relationships need sexual polarity to work. So the masculine will be attracted to the feminine and vice versa.From the little information that I have read, both men and women are becoming depolarised.From the information disclosed, it sounds as though you are doing the pursuing, for whatever reason.Because I'm limited in knowledge, I would say that it would be a good idea to do a little research into understanding men and attraction because men are hardwired completely different to women, from their brains to their bodies.If you get a note pad and Google search a few helpful starting points into understanding men, you will find answers to questions you probably wouldn't have thought of.Try:. masculine and feminine energy (looking at a few websites to find correlations in buzzwords).understanding men's behaviorI have a couple of websites in mind but I'm unsure weather I'd be able to note them on here, but the key ingredient that you need to filter for is research on feminine woman.Women are hardwired for relationships, so the thing you crave most is attraction and connection with a masculine man.Men are hardwired different and actually have something called commitment resistance, but as humans we are also made for pair bonding. Men have different priorities to women.
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reader, Marilissa75  +, writes (15 March 2014):
 He is not serious about pursuing something with you. He may also have another love interest you are not aware of or he may be one of these happy-go-lucky types who just goes with the moment. He may have a drinking or drug issue you are not aware of that contributes to a short attention span and being easily distracted. So do not take this personally. You are pretty, fun and a good friend. He is not a good friend to you and he is not a good potential mate. Stop contacting him. Be cordial if you see him around but let him go. You can do better.
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reader, wubbadukky +, writes (14 March 2014):
Why are you not simply telling him how you feel? We strangers cannot relay this message to him. Please consider dialing the chap up and giving him your two cents in a kind manner.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (14 March 2014):
 Because you ate a pretty girl that wants something from him that atm he is not keen on giving you. You are a pretty girl who does not just want to flirt, kill time, shoot the breeze, and go out spur of the moment some random time whenever there's nothing else going on. You are a pretty girl with a mission, : to have him take you out on a date , and make this outing / date possibly go into a certain date-ish direction, where he does not want to go.
" We have to do this again one of these days " is not exactly the same as " we have to do this again, what about next Saturday ". " We have to do this again one of these days " or " sometime soon " means : when I, the guy, am good and reday, no planning no scheduling no expectations.
You have expectations and he got that - not that you are wrong or condemnable for having expectations, he just is not biting, and his silence means you are nice and pretty and all... but, I am not biting.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 March 2014): Maybe he fancies you but... He doesn't want to, or doesn't think he can, have sex with you, so he's not too fussed about texting you back.
I know that sounds really horrible and harsh, but from personal experience as well as what I have seen with my friends... when a guy is interested in a girl he will do things for her he won't for a friend that is a girl. That includes the privilege of a quick response to texts as well as cancelling on friends etc. etc. And you are just a friend.
I don't think he is actively ignoring you, but he simply has 'better' things to do, in his opinion at least.
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