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*abriela1993!
writes:[Moderator's Note: OP's own title]My bf always gets jealous, when i write on a guys wall, or when i comment something. So i told him i wouldnt do it anymore. Now, he is doing it, and i dont understand. What is up with him???????????
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 September 2010): He sounds like a game player. Jealousy is very destructive and it is his problem to gently point this out - he is the only one who can solve this for himself and you don't need to be restricted by his problem.
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reader, Eskim0  +, writes (20 September 2010):
Love, you don't want to be in a relationship like this. There is absolutely no point. Half the world is made up of guys, and if he can't man up and get over that, then he ain't worth it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 September 2010): If he is doing what he has asked you to NOT do, he could be doing it to make you jealous. It's like he is playing a bit of a game. He doesn't like you writing on guys walls or commenting, so he is doing the same to "get even" with you.
I think the real issue here is a lack of trust, and the fact that he is being a bit controlling. If you have male friends, you are entitled to talk to them and comment on Facebook (which I'm assuming is what you are referring to). It doesn't mean you are up to something, and he needs to understand that. Don't stop talking to your male friends because of your boyfriend, that is not very healthy. Just explain to him that they are your friends, and you have a right to talk to them, just like he has a right to talk to and write on the walls of any female friends he may have. Reassure him that you are with HIM and him only.
But if he keeps playing games like this, or getting upset if you talk to male friends, it may be a problem that will keep causing friction. If he cannot trust you, it isn't a good sign for a relationship. Don't let him control you. All you can do is reassure him. The rest is up to him whether to trust you or not. And it is also up to you whether to put up with this or not.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 September 2010): hmmm... I guess that he is trying to do the same thing you did... Or maybe he want to make you jealous too... What you have to do is to tell him to stop with these things... I f you don't want things to get worse, do't do the same thing..
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reader, MissUnderstanding  +, writes (20 September 2010):
Hey.
Bassiclly HES A GUY.!
Guys get jelous when ther girls are in any form
of contact with another guy. Even if they know its innocent. YET they dont feel the need to not do it themselves. While it may be innocent when they do it also, guys automaticlly react to girls however comes natural to them
I would say, dont refrain from simply talking to guys.
If its innocent, he just has to deal with it. If he cant,
that says more about HIM and his immaturity than what YOU should, or shouldnt be doing.
Miss.U
x
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