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writes:Hi, I was just wondering could a male reader tell me? The guys I like or fancy boast about there so called girlfreinds to me all the time. I don't know why, it's like I want to know because I don't so why do they do it to me it's so annoying and talking to me as if I was a male friend, they DON'T see I am a girl too at all. I don't like this when they boast about their made up or real ex girlfreinds, it hurts my feelings. They boasts to me about their latest conquest to me. It makes me wonder if I am male or female the way guys treat me. I'd like to be seen as girlfriend potenial but I am not, other girls are but not me. It's cruel to be hurt like that.They ask out girls they don't know but not the ones they do know and they are always sucessful and I am scrubbed off the list as no go area.Do guys like girls with long hair, shoulder length, very short hair like a guy. What am I supposed to look like to get a boyfriend?What type guys like girls with very short hair like guys hair cut. Sometimes I think of gettindg guys hair even though I have long jet black hair.I am just so frustrated, I try to make myself look a certain way and think would he would fancy mebut I don't know how to make a guy fancy me. Maybe I am not girlfriend potential. I am so stressed that I can't make a single guy fancy me and other girls get asked out but not me.I am so frutstred by this I could scream. All the guys I liked have always fancied someone else and got sucessful and not rejected but I have and I have lost count. Maybe there is no point in me bothering there no point yes to a guy I don't fancy, maybe I should its all i have. I wish I knew what the guys know about girls fancying them and being successful. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 December 2008): orginal post can any one give more information,especially from the male readers.i do really need to understand this behaviour
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 December 2008): speaking from a guy's point of view you need to relax. from what you've said i reckon it's becoming almost obsessional to the point of which you've lost all confidence in yourself and it's affecting your ability to relax and be yourself. i have a friend who sounds a little like this, he goes out on a night out and tries to force the issue instead of just enjoying himself and going with the flow and then if it happens it happens. i'm a great believer of just relaxing and if something happens it happens. you're being too hard on yourself and are even thinking of different images to attract blokes. as long as you make a bit of effort with your appearance which i'm sure you do, i.e. you don't have a tom selleck muzzy (i'm only kidding here by the way), then you'll be fine. with regard to blokes boasting about their sex lives out loud and in public, i have found that these are the blokes with the worst sex lives, they play it as a front, do you think these blokes would be telling you if they prematurely ejaculated? i don't think so. it's also brinsmanship over other blokes to try and make themselves feel superior, the fact that they talk about it around you just means that they're really comfortable with your company, i wouldn't look at it as something negative on yourself.my advice is just to relax and be yourself, don't put pressure on yourself, if something happens it happens and by no means just go out and be seen by blokes to be needy or a slut as you'll just earn a terrible reputation for yourself and end up shagging some bloke you don't even really like just to give your ego a boost.
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reader, Anonny  +, writes (9 December 2008):
Life is cruel and never what you want it to be - FACT!
Okay - you say you have no luck with men - but you probably are lucky in other areas (eg money or brains etc etc). So its all swings and roundabouts.
I must admit - I've only ever been asked out by 2 or 3 guys who I really wanted to be asked out by - most people don't get the men they want - but you wouldn't want to settle for 2nd best would you? - I would rather be free and single!
People in life always think the grass is greener on the other side - well it never is! - Just be happy with what you've got - I'm sure one day your man will come along!
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