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writes:okay so i put a picture of my boyfriend and i together on facebook nothing bad or unapropriate just a casual picture. then he got mad so i took it off he said the next time i put a picture of him on facebook, to ask him first. so i put the picture back on there. and he said there you go again. Next time ask me before you put a picture of me on there. why does he say this?
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 April 2011): yeah i agree with everyone else...he just wants to be informed first or maybe wants to see it and even say no to it.My bf doesnt have FB but i do and he actually said im not aloud to put any fotos of him on it, so ur not the only one.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (1 April 2011):
 That's a favourite hang up of mine too.
Last summer I went to a picnic with friends, they took pics and the day after they put the pics on Facebook. I was annoyed, and they were surprised I was annoyed , because it had surely being nothing indecent or secret !
Who cares : maybe I don't like to been seen by everybody and his sister while I am munching on a chicken leg, or I am making faces, or I don't have make up on. Maybe I don't feel like advertising to the whole world where I was on a specific day with whom doing what, I am not a celebrity or a public figure and my private life is private, even if not secret. Maybe I am just a ballbreaker- but no, nobody should feel free to show my face anywhere without my expressed ( not implied ) consent.
I guess your bf feels the same.
Then again, I must say that my hang up is typically age related, because I see how my younger friends and relatives - in their 20es - do not share at all this concern.
So, unluckily it's not totally impossible that your bf has some peccadillo to hide and does not want to be seen on Fb, or to be seen with you.
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reader, dmartin89  +, writes (1 April 2011):
 Dont put pictures of people up for all to see without their permission, tbh its quite rude and disrespecting their privacy.
Argh...now i'm mad.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 April 2011): This is a bone of contention for me as well. I deeply resent people posting pictures of me on the internet without recieving my permission first. Having photos of me in your private family album that doesn't leave your home is one thing. Publishing them online is another.
Your boyfriend is right. Stop posting his pictures (or pictures that include him) without his permission.
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reader, maverick494 +, writes (1 April 2011):
Maybe he is wary of putting his face on the internet. I know I am. Lots of bad things happen to people who put many pictures of themselves online. Impersonation for sex sites for example. Or when someone wants to burn you, all they need to do is start a twitter account or fb page with your name and pictures and write stupid stuff to offend a bunch of people.
It could also have to do with the fact some people post pretty much every stupid picture they have online, including inappropriate ones. In my own social circle there are many people who put pictures of themselves online where they're wasted.
Either that or he isn't all that thrilled about being your bf and doesn't want the world to know that you're together (as in, he's using you.)
Talk to him and ask why he's upset with you for putting a nice casual picture of you two online. Ask him if he has a problem with showing his face online or if there's something else.
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