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writes:I didn't think I would ever end up online asking people about relationship advice, but I can't think clearly anymore so help me out. I've got this pseudo friend whom I have taken to the prom and still hang out on a weekly basis with couple other friends. Thing is, we never started things seriously and it was only by chance that I've taken her to prom 'cause things didnt work out with the girl i've been dating at the time. And ever since it's been some sort of friendly relationship or something like that. But recently it's been getting weird. I can't get her out of my mind. I've even started to daydream during my work that I tried to stop hang around with her for a month. The thing is, I don't know what this is. Obsession? Suppressed desire for skinship? Three weeks ago I feel asleep during the movie holding her tightly, which left quite impression on my other friends who took us to be couples. Two weeks ago I couldn't stop trying to hug her although we were (my friends included) all just swimming in the pool, relaxing. That's when it hit me that I was losing control of myself. And last week-I don't know even know how to explain this because I've never been through this before- I playfully nibbled? bit? her ear several times, brushing my face against hers. I don't know what the hell is going on with me. I'm still thinking about it and I just can't understand. Why did I do that? Normally, if it were any other girl, I would have just kissed her. But I didn't. I just stared at her the whole time, nibbling her ear and kissing (?) her cheek. As if I was waiting for her reaction. This is not like me. I don't like being this way. It feels awkward and I hate feeling awkward 'cause I just don't, alright? I don't know. What the hell does she want? My buddy tells me that I'm just getting lonely so I am just jumping at any girl, but if that was the case why am I not able to just kiss her, work out/ mess up everything and be over with? I just want her. I don't mean sex. I don't mean the look I don't mean the personality. It's something else. It's the look in her eyes, although that doesn't sound right. Something in her eyes. I'm just going to be straight forward with her. I'll tell her how I feel and get this over with. I guess that's why I'm writing here. Writing down my thoughts cleared my head up a bit I guess. I think that's the right thing to do. My question is: what is she thinking? If I do that, do you think she's going to get offended? I know she's a nice sweet girl but I also know that when she gets offended, she turn cold and cuts off communication. I don't want that to happen. I'll take any bits of advice. I've got about two weeks (I'm taking this week off to cool down and re assess the situation. I need to regain my focused edge not just to work out this thing between her and me but also to keep my job) before I go see her, so help me out.
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reader, chibi vampire +, writes (29 July 2009):
 u don't know it but the answer is right in front of you, one u took her to prom she said yes.two u hang out with her and she was ok, three u hug her as u slept and they where no complaints.four u kisses her in the ears and stuff and she did not push you away, it sounds to me like she also likes u but u need to make sure that you love her as well.but is sounds to me like u do, just ask her and tell her that u like her and u want to be more then friends, i don't see a reason why she would said no.
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reader, RCK  +, writes (29 July 2009):
Just go for it. You will know exactly what she's thinking once you let it loose. As for an answer to your question about what your thinking let me spell it out L.O.V.E man..... Like a chemical reaction to her scent. Good Luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 July 2009): It's called "being in love" dipnuts!! Welcome to the adult world. I don't know how she feels, but you better at least get a judgement on how she feels until you tell her so. Which is probably why you can't kiss her because you DONT know how she feels. Spend more time with her and when the time is right just ask her. Go from there.
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