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female
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30-35,
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writes:Ive been with my boyfriend 7 months now. Im 17, he's 18. We attend different schools but in the same district. He's fairly popular, lots of friends, parties and what not. And i tend to hang out with people from his school more than mine. But usually always with him. I met one of his close friends back in July. We will call him..Tony. Me, my bf, Tony and his other friend were hanging out and i found Tony very attractive, genuine, funny and sweet. He told me 'I cant get over how good you smell' and smiled. I thought he was nice but wasnt forming any feelings for him. As me and my bf continued dating I saw Tony several times, im going to write out the things hes said and done towards me over several hangouts with me and my bf.- We were all hanging out and Tony said to my bf 'I wish i had a (my name)'- Once said to my bf with me there 'Im jealous of you, i wish i had a gf as pretty as her'- My boyfriend told me i was beautiful and Tony said 'She really is'- Told me i smelt amazing...again. haha.- Once when i walked in Tony hugged me tightly out of nowhere- At a party once we were standing next to each other and he did a little shoulder nudge and smiled- My bf was telling his friends that he was my first bf and Tony said 'but you dont know about me'Hes a friendly guy, popualr, apparently a virgin. I havent had a ton of deep convo's with him so its not like we're close.I always thought he was just being friendly, a flirt, and what not. But now im not sure, because I hungout with them twice this weekend and i cant stop thinking about him. I dont know if its because ive devolped a crush on him so im taking things out of context or if this kid does have...something for me? I would never cheat on my bf, i just want to know what you guys think this guy is doing. Thanks so much if you read this, any advice and help is greatly apprecaited.
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reader, k_c100  +, writes (18 January 2012):
 It sounds like he does have a crush on you as well.
You need to be very careful here - he is clearly attracted to you, and you are developing feelings for him so technically you are already cheating on your boyfriend. This is emotional cheating when you have feelings for someone else and it often is as hurtful as physical cheating.
Imagine if you found out your boyfriend had a crush on one of your female friends - you would be very hurt wouldnt you? So your boyfriend is going to be equally hurt by what is currently going on with you and Tony.
Back off from Tony, avoid him as much as you can and stop these feelings NOW before they get worse.
I hope this helps and good luck!
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