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writes:This is really frustrating for me; there's a guy I know and for the first time in the 3.5 months I've known him, he called me his friend (3 times) and even called his employer for me to check an interview requirement. He's 18, I'm 17, but a 20yo girl (used to be his best friend) told me he's mentioned a couple of times to his class in college that I'm weird. She's the type of girl that hates two faced people "if you're gonna bitch, be honest with the person and say it straight" rather than complaining to others. She said "maybe he does like you as a friend but he thinks he'll look uncool because you're not the typical party teenager etc. or maybe he's lying to you because he wants something" and she said something about following him but I barely talk to him unless he talks to me and // or I'm with my class too. 2 months ago I'd have believed her with no doubt in my mind because he seemed like that wouldn't be unlikely, but now I have felt like friends with him, I suppose I'm just hoping it isn't true or that whatever the following thing was a misunderstanding and when he said 'weird' he didn't mean it in a bad way (he's used it as both before - many people do). I was gonna ask him straight out "*Beth told me you've said to some people that I'm weird and if you think that, tell me now and just be honest" (Beth suggested I should too) but he had rehearsals to go to because what makes this more difficult is that these to can both act (and therefore, lie) pretty convincingly because it's what their course is about. I won't see him for the rest of the week but I'll see Beth on Thursday and she said she'll ask him tomorrow and tell me thursday what he says. Don't get me wrong, I think it's immature, but I want to know where I stand with both of them really. She calls herself and there weird, but you can tell if she means it in a bad way, but I wasn't there when he (did or didn't) said it, so I don't have that advantage. He's said once 2 months ago that something I said was weird (to him because he wouldn't have said it or something - it was just us 2) but it was my prerogative (not sure what he meant) but I think we've made progress since then and sometimes he'll signal for me to go hang outside with him and my other mates and acquaintances from his class, so I don't get the whole following thing :-S it would be so much easier if people were more straightforward. I don't really doubt that he's said I'm weird, but I've said to my mates that he's strange but I meant it in a good way, so it does depend on how he meant it. I just hope it can be sorted out now so that if he meant it in a bad way, I can just stop bothering and it'll be fine. I don't get why he'd offer (and go through with) calling his employer for this acting thing and risk his reputation with them if he didn't consider me a friend or any good at acting. I'm kind of confused.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (19 January 2012):
 Then the best thing is to adopt a " do no evil, fear no evil " attitude. Did you, in your judgement , do or say something that could be seen or misconstrued as weird - in a bad way ? Anything extreme, otrageous, over the top ? No ? ... Then assume that he meant it in a good, joking way . Particularly since you are in cordial terms , so why should he want to slag you off on purpose, just like that ,for the heck of it.
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reader, What_Te_Heck_Is_Going_On +, writes (18 January 2012):
What_Te_Heck_Is_Going_On is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHe's done many stage shows in local theatres and has co-directed some - this isn't just a drama class. I know, I'm hoping it wasn't meant in a bad way, but he said it to people in his class on the same day and once or twice over the past 2 weeks, he didn't say it to me other than in the second month I'd known him. I don't really mind THAT much if we are 'officially' friends or not, I just want to know not to bother talking to him more than absolutely necessary if he thinks I'm weird in a bad way. Otherwise, I'm fine carrying on being this regular acquaintance - no more, no less - like I said, I just don't want to talk to anyone more than I have to if they'll slag me off to their friends/class. I've said people are slightly strange or weird, but only if I've clarified that I mean it in a good way, I wouldn't say it if it was bad or trying to slag someone off, but some people would and I'm not sure which one he is.
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reader, CindyCares +, writes (18 January 2012):
I would not overthink this. Weird, strange, ... unusual, curious, quirky... you must have done or said something that, in that moment, surprised him and he commented about it, chances are that now he does not even remember the episode.
How many times I have said to someone " You must be crazy !! ", that does not mean that I wanted to call the paramedics and get the the person straightjacketed and locked into a padded cell.
By the same token, I would not play up the " friend " thing, it sounds more like you are normal acquaintances and recommending each other for a gig is something that young actors do - at least until they don't start being successful ergo strongly competitive. " He risked his reputation "... what reputation ? An 18 y.o. kid in a drama class ?...
Keep text analysis for scene study, in real life things are much more casual - people say things as they come, , without any particular or sinister subtext.
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