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writes:I live in Southern California, and went to visit some friends in Las Vegas. While I was there I hit it off with a guy there who was hanging out with his friends who are also my friends. We exchanged numbers before I went home and we've been talking ever since. Not only is he a 3 hour drive from me, but he's also a cop. We talked about the whole distance thing - and its not a problem. Plus, I was originally planning on moving out there for school and so I'll be moving out there in June.Whats it like dating a cop though? I've heard good things but I've also heard bad things. Some personal experiences would be great. I'm also almost 20 and he's 24. I'm a full time student and he's works full time for the Police Department - and his schedule varies week by week.Thanks (:
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reader, SoCal_Sweetie +, writes (17 January 2012):
SoCal_Sweetie is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHey everyone! Thanks so much for the replies. Almost everyone has asked me about how he handles stress and the things he sees while he's at work. We actually had a talk about this the other day because I told him how I never hear a complaint out of him after he finishes a shift at work and then I asked him how he's able to not bring his work home with him. (I was in a horrible car accident in December 2010 - and it messed me up emotionally for a long time). He told me its because he loves his job, and even though its hard not to bring home his work and what he might see that day- work is work and when he's at home he has other things to focus on such as me, friends, and family.
So in my opinion I think he does a great job separating work from his personal life.
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reader, TrancedRhythmEar  +, writes (17 January 2012):
 Get to know this guy... is he like denzel from training day? or wesley snipes in murder at 1600? Ive donated money to policemens families after they passed away and thats sad. The job I hear is very stressful, demanding, and well, I hear also inconvenient. If he's robocop you aint gotta worry bout all dat but chances are he isnt so... look at how he deals with stress. Get a feel for he handles pressure and difficult tasks at his job. This could tell you about his maturity level as well as his work ethic, two good key things to know before dating a guy. Good luck.
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reader, vegasqueen +, writes (17 January 2012):
Ironically, I live in Vegas, and I'm dating a LVMPD policeman. Its great. I always feel very safe when I'm with him. It also helps that he's 6'1'' and 250lbs.. I've been seeing him for 5 mos now, and I have no complaints. Ill admit that occationally I worry about him if I don't hear from him for a few hours but he reassures me that I have nothing to worry about. The officers in Vegas are like a huge family and I love being apart of it.. So I guess what I'm saying is, go for it..
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 January 2012): You have to get the know the guy he is OP, but the distance, the weird hours and the fact that every time he's at work he puts his life on the line can be difficult.
Police is not just a job OP it's a vocation, just like a teacher you're not just getting into a relationship with the person but the job because that job doesn't necessarily end when he finishes his shift. Depending on the guy himself he may be a very different person depending whether he rescued a dog from a a river that day or was first on the scene to a family including children being brutally slaughtered or spent 6 hours at the scene of a car accident where people have died.
Not only is his schedule going to be messed up but he may have to cancel dates, I mean going on a date after one of those especially tough days may not be possible as you can well understand. But they're actually very rare anyway.
It depends on where he's based really, an inner city station is going to be more stressful than a county cops job, or a traffic cops. Honestly though OP you just don't know so I would go for it.
It has it's difficulties and is not just a job, it's his life. As long as your prepared to share that part of his life with him to a certain degree then you have nothing to fear. In general being a cop is a sign of a good person, it's someone who likes to protect and serve others, and his community, those are already good traits in a person.
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reader, Kyle007 +, writes (17 January 2012):
Well, all I can say is, don't do anything illegal around him.
Asking, what is it like dating a cop is too general. You don't want to know what it is like to date a cop per se, you want to know what its like to date HIM.
And there is only one way to find out.
There is a unique individual under that uniform (and the rest of his clothing, LOL)
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