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writes:hi! am a bit confused about an issue...am trying 2 find a job in my field of study which is broadcasting and leave my current job, and 2 months ago some work colleague introduced me to a guy let's call him "T" who works in the media and has his own production house that was to be officially opened at the beginning of this month.The thing is this guy T accepted me and we agreed that I would go every other day or something training till he starts officially then I'd get paid and such.. anyways during this period of so called training that didn't last actually more than a week! the 1st couple of days he was great, he kept giving me materials and showing me stuff and how to do them, he made me do some promos, things were awesome!then the other 2 days we started opening up to each others specially that he's one year older than me only! we spent hours talking while transferring data on the PC, we sort of talked bout everything! he told me bout his girlfriend whom he doesn't love and stuff like that...Anyways to cut things short the last 2 days he told me that he wants to talk frankly with me, first he talked about salary and stuff like that, then he told me he's attracted to me! I can't deny the only thing that was holding me down was the fact that he's got a girlfriend, then to my surprise he told me he had left her!then he was so close and he tried to kiss me, but I wouldnt let him, he held my hands and kept kissing my hands and cuddling me with his arm...I felt awkward and I told him we don't know each other and maybe this is just lust, and I made things clear to him that am not that type and I don't wanna do anything wrong.. I gave the message that I am over decent I guess I scared him off!!!! I dont know but I tried to protect myself from him while being as nice as possible to not lose the job opportunity :SThen he changed and kept saying that I've to choose between working together or getting together, cos it wont work out if we work together and we're like girlfriend and boyfriend. I told him it's too soon to tell then eventually after lots of talking I chose work and he chose work too! so far so good right?!well the other day I went which was the last time I actually saw him, he tried to kiss me again and he came from behind me and kissed me on my cheek...then I told him that if he cared about me he should respect me, that if someone comes and finds him trying to make out with me and we're at work!anyways he was cool about it and said sorry...then we were supposed to meet the other day only that he kept coming up with excuses up till today! he first said sorry I over slept and am too tired, let's meet tomorow, then he's like sorry I have a meeting, then sorry lets make it after 2 days then sorry I got busy let's meet after 4 days...then sorry I had exams, bulllllllll!! the thing is he said am calling cos I know the dirty thoughts that must be going through your mind I'm really busy and I don't sleep I have exams...then last time he called was wedn. the one before last week which is over 10 days now, he said he's done with exams and that he wants me to give him 1 week then we'll start working!up till today he didnt call, nor did I cos I'm fed up of him making up excuses!what's bothering me the most is the thought of, was he only after making out with me and when he failed to get that he dumped me out of the job?! or is he really busy as he says?? but then again he was supposed to open the production house June 1st, didnt he open still??what's that all about?! I really thought I liked him! I felt happy around him and I liked talking with him...but was it all lies?!ah one more thing sorry for being too long, I looked up for him on hi5, and I found in his profile that he's bisexual!! and he puts really odd pics of himself...I keep saying ok maybe it's an old account or something....well that's it, any advice is greatly appreciated...................thnxxxxxxx
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (17 June 2007):
 I think he just wants you for the sex. Since you didn't give him what he wanted, he is now avoiding you. Just stay away from him.
I find it nasty that he brought up the subject of the job you would supposedly get with him. I can believe that a man can love you at first sight, but, if that happened to me, I would have reacted in an absolutely different manner. I would have given you the job, yes, and maybe some time later would I have spoken about love. How does he know you're not with someone? He just jumped at his "chance". Don't give this matter another thought and stay away from him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 June 2007): hey luv
im sorri this might hurt but he doesnt luv u he using u 4 sex, u didnt give him what he wanted so he stops talking 2 u forget him luk else where find sum1 who cares for u. and gud u didnt give in he wuda taken ur didgnity and told u 2 du1.
tc x x x x x
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reader, i might be a girl but i can help  +, writes (17 June 2007):
 well the thing is u wil never know till u ask him coz i can say to u from wot u have said he is usin u which it does look like to me but he might like u and might just be scared coz u have excuses like he does for not havin this relationship. just talk tell him how u feel and u can have a relationship in work u r professional a work and completley in love at home many people can do it just don't tell any1. and i think u can do better than him anyway but if u do like him and he might just like u talk to him and work things out. good luck x
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