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writes:My boyfriend and I had sex for the first time tonite, well I say had sex, I mean tried!!he had trouble getting it up and then got upset cos it all went wrong. He kept saying it was me not him and I was like okay, but I feel like it was me. Maybe I'm not sexy enough for him and maybe I'm not good enough for him. He kept saying it was because he loved me and wanted it all to go perfect and that was why he was panicing but I feel like it's me that has the problem!any advice or words of wisdom wud be great!!! thanx xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 June 2007): He probably said it was your fault out of frustration. There are a lot of reasons that something like this can happen. The most likely cause however would seem to be stress. It has nothing to do with how you look. He just needs to calm down and relax. Next time just take it slow, he's likely to feel even more pressure so just try to make him comfortable. Again what happened had very little to do with you. Take care.
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reader, Sweet-thing +, writes (17 June 2007):
 Nope honey, it wasn't you....but it was. The thing is, guys get more nervous about the "first time" than we realize. The pressure of making it "perfect", making it awesome, or just making it in general is alot of pressure and some guys have performance issues because of it. Don't worry, you're plenty sexy enough. But when guys get nervous, sometimes, "little willy" doesn't cooperate. I promise, next time will be beter....or at least the time after that. So relax. Don't make a fuss over it and once you guys get used to doing it, things will be much better. Trust me on this one.
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