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male
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30-35,
*utless
writes:Ok i dont know how to start but i guess i have to start somewere,its quite a story but thanks in advance to who ever might be patient to go that fari'v been dating this girl for about 3 to 4 months now,things zoom of so fast,we were chatting in a site like that almost everyday(though we still do) we speak on phone atleast 5times a day...she use to call me constantly to know how,were,and what im doing?even who i was with.when she calls she uses this babyish pampering voice to speak with me,and when we are through she concludes it with i love you.all this made me to go head over heal in love with her,she really made me fall in love with her that i start being insecure which is getting the better part of me(i even think that insecurity is what propelled me to be writing all this)ok here it goes recently i found out that all this things i mentioned above are dying out,she rarely calls (though she calls all day but not like that 5times i mentioned above again)and her tone began to change,not in commanding way but all those babyish pampering voice wasnt their,she rarely says i love you at the end she just wait for me to say it which i do sometimes before she will reply.Ok i forgot to say that we live about 30mins drive away from each other,i use to invite her to come and visit,she wil be delightful to do this,she wil ask me time to come,then i usually say around 10am so this days when i request her visiting she wont refuse but she wil be like let me see what i can do,and wen i suggest she comes around 10 she wil remind me its early or she wil say she have to finish her chores first(which she don say before) so my question is1) is this a kind of phase that comes up in every relationship or have the flame died out2)or is this all in my head am i being over demanding and not seing things from her own point of view,or maybe my insecurity is getting better part of methanx to ever who got this far
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reader, Dear Mandy  +, writes (5 July 2012):
 HI
Yes most people will agree that after a certain amount of time with someone things start to calm, fall into place so to speak, you cant expect someone to be overly happy and excited 24/7. Also if your on the phone with eachtoher all the time you have no time to miss each other, or think about the other person, because your always in full contact. a little space here for you both will be good, phone maybe once or twice a day, and see each other once or twice a week, see how that goes. If things dont improve for you or get worse then im afraid this relationship has run its course, and could be time to move on.
I hope this helps
Mandy x
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