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writes:Is he seeing someone else? or why would he start acting this way? I have been seeing this guy for 2 months now and he started standing me up, and when I call and ask him where he is he very calm, when I ask him to bring the stuff I left in his car he says he can't come for at least 2 hours, when he gets here he brings me my stuff very quickly and leaves never once looking at me. I call and ask him about what is going on between us he gets very defensive saying I'm accusing him of things he never did with me, saying that I did things to him I should have never, that he is going to call his lawyer, then when I see him at school he acts like we're good friends. Reply to this Question
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reader, Blue_Angel0316  +, writes (26 January 2009):
 From the sounds of things it was a cover up for something either he WAS DOING OR WAS PLANNING ON DOING. Sometimes people can't be honest and it would have been the best thing for him to be honest with you. Like I said he could have been preoccupied with something or someone else,he obviously was. He never considered your feelings. Remember that you are WORTHY of more than he GAVE YOU, hold your head up high and walk on,never look back and leave him to his own demise. When you give someone enough rope they will eventually HANG THEMSELVES!
Don't waste time worrying over him. Get on with your life, you are far better than he anyway. REST ASSURED! You DESERVE BETTER! SMILE CAUSE GOD LOVES YOU!
Blessings,
Blue_Angel
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reader, sunshine8508 +, writes (26 January 2009):
sunshine8508 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThis guy statred seeing someone else right after I asked him what was going on, what a stab in the back is alls i can say.
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reader, Blue_Angel0316 +, writes (6 January 2009):
I am thinking that standing you up was his way of distancing himself from you. He's backing off and it seems it may be because someone has told him something, claiming you said it. Guys don't like their business out there so this could have been rather disturbing to him. If he has believed an untruth about you he is going overboard with it. At any case it appears that he is really trying to push you away for whatever reason. If he is acting like it's all good when you are at school perhaps it's because he isn't around the person who told him in the first place and has no reason to carry on the act or being angry at you.
I would say in this case you are best off walking away from this one. If he is hurting your feelings by believing junk that is told to him chances are he isn't going to change on that. His acting like friends at school is giving you mised signals, and making you really confused. This can be a very unhealthy way to have any kind of relationship. His threat to contact a lawyer has made you a bit fearful I am sure because you don't really know what is going on and you are wondering just what you are getting into.
He was beyound rude when he brought your things and didn't even acknowledge you. It would have been proper to at least say here are you things or hi I brought your things. Maybe he was at loss for words, or he was too preoccupied with something or someone else. Who really knows? I don't think you should waste time waiting to find out. If he doesn't trust you to be honest and geniune with your feelings and actions then what's the point in persuing him?
Let him go and find someone who has the maturity to deal with a real relationship. Not someone who will be constantly attacking your words about the relationsip or him. If you are a caring young lady then he has no need to treat you otherwise. A caring person isn't going to go around trying to hurt someone just to be doing something. Chances his Macho image has been tarnished by something you said. Possibly taken out of context and carried around from one person to another until it came back NOTHING YOU REALLY SAID.*Rumor has it........
Learn to keep your thoughts to yourself and mind who you tell your deepest secrets too. Somehow they always come back to haunt you. Even when you never say the things that come full circle, they can bite you....just like a snake in the grass! Sometimes people tend to be one way and you find that they are actually like two different people. Two different personalities. Whatever the case here, move on and stop stressing over him. Focus on yourself for you know what you did or didn't say and GOD IS YOUR WITNESS! Don't let anyone LOWER your SELF-ESTEEM or Take your DIGNITY AWAY. You don't need anyone that badly.
Pray about this hon and then let it go for you WILL FIND someone who WILL ACCEPT you for who you are and they won't try tearing you down in bits and pieces. Stand tall, walk softly and carry your head high....looking right past him if you need to. *-) And don't forget to SMILE!
God bless,
Blue_Angel
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