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writes:What do you think is 'appropiate' to happen between a bf and gf when the have been in a relationship for a week only. Do you think the guy puting his hands up the girl's top is inappropiate? Or ok if she wants him to? If a guy does this after a week of being in a relationship do you think maybe he has one thing on his mind and one thing only...sex? Or he still be a sincere and genuine person? Reply to this Question
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reader, Karlos Omnis  +, writes (24 October 2007):
 How you behave in the beginning sets the precedent for the rest of the relationship.
Or guarantees that there won't be a future. If he's already making advances on you in this manner I would suggest he's only after one thing, and once he's achieved it he'll be gone like a shot.
If you're ok with a flash in the pan fling then by all means continue as you are, but if you wish to save your dignity and self respect put your foot down now.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 October 2007): Well yes I can see that it might seem that way. You have no need to worry, just dont forget that you are in control. If he acts in a way that you dont appreciate at any time just tell him no. Until then enjoy him as much or as little as you like x
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 October 2007): The speed at which you go with your partner would vary between couples. Some people would be fine with it, but other people (kind of like myself) would feel uncomfortable going so fast.It's up to you. If you are both comfortable then go for it and don't care what anyone else says. Stop when you feel it gets too far. If he is truely in love with you then he will respect your wishes and stop.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 October 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionphiatiger - Yeah i am an adult, im 18 and he is 19. we have been friends for a while though...
I dont think I was really giving any 'signs out' to make him think i wanted that...but maybe i was? I duno...
The thing is i was ok with him doing that i guess, its just i worry that because it was fairly early that maybe he has bad intentions.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 October 2007): The advice for this would depend on your age. Assuming that you are an adult then what is appropriate is entirely up to the individual. If you are questioning his behaviour because it made you feel uncomfortable then you need to make what YOU see as appropriate clear - if this causes a problem mfor him then yes he is just after sex.
To me a week is a little soon for a man to be comfortable enough to grope you, but that would depend on the signals you are giving out. You need to decide what is ok for you and how long is acceptable for him to wait before you make any further advancments.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 October 2007): Well its only right if it feels right.No amount of time can determine when can a hand go anywhere.If it feels comfortable and the both of you are cool w it.Then I say have fun! But always use protection if it leads to sex.!! gotta b careful these days!
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