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writes:I have been in an intimate relationship with another male for three months. Now he is saying we are moving too fast and in the future we should develop a casual relationship. His definition of casual relationship is a monogamous, committed relationship; mine is the opposite. Who is right? Reply to this Question
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reader, SamuraiRick  +, writes (16 November 2007):
 Instead of trying to find out what WE think casual means you should ask him straight out what he means by casual. Casual is just a word and can mean a relationship of any number of variations. Ask him to define it, then determine for yourself if you are comfortable with it.
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reader, Oblivia  +, writes (15 November 2007):
 Casual does sound a lot like not so committing. On the other hand, if you want to understand him and to understand where this is going, then you should listen more to what he seems to want out of your relationship rather than discussing whether he uses the right word for it or not. It could be that all he wants is that you don't commit too deep after only three months. It doesn't necessarily mean that he wants you or him to date others. Maybe he has gotten a little scared now when you have been together for some time and wants to take a step back to think over what he wants to do before getting deeper involved.
What do YOU want? Are you ok with him doing this? I think you should talk to him and ask him what he expects from you and how long time ahead is the future he is talking about? Then you must decide whether you are ready to wait for him to come around or if you want to move on with someone else.
Wish you all the best!
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reader, whiteshadow  +, writes (15 November 2007):
 casual relationship is something not so comitted and serious to me.
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reader, kenny +, writes (15 November 2007):
 I have always thought that a casual relationship is nothing to serious, like seeing each other once in a while, while being able to see other people at the same time.
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