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writes:What interests older men about younger girls? I'm not talking about a 40 year old and a 12 year old... I mean, like, a 30 year old and an 18 year old. She's too old to still be too innocent, and isn't that what mean are usually in to? i'm asking because my cousin is in this sort of relationship and i just don't understand it. she's a great girl, but what could he see in her? isn't she too young?
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 April 2009): I think, my answer is the most relevant, because I am as well a man interested in younger women.When I was 26 years old, I started to go out with 16. In my 35 with 21 (14 years gap). Now in my nearly 40 I started with 24 years old (yes, 16 years difference). And I have to say, there is no such problem as a age gap. Problem was usually raised from their intolerant parents.And now answer, why I am doing this:It is not true that younger girls make me feel younger. True is that I feel younger than my actual age so I am always friend with younger people generally. If I am talking to woman of the same age, it seems like talking to pensioner! They are already too old for me, they wants comfortable life, sitting at home, watching telly... I need to enjoy my life! And younger women have this energy to keep up with me. I feel steel like 20-30 yers old and many people cannot believe that I am older because I look about 30. Yes, they guess me usually at least 10 years less than my actual age.So let's "play" with girls for which I am not child :)...and I do not just play, I LOVE them, really! And this is what really matter the most!PS: of course, I love always just the one of them.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 February 2009): It can be a 'safe' love. Some younger girls have a security in an older man because they understand this guy would do just about anything to keep them. And- the older man wouldn't leave them for a younger woman because they ARE the younger woman. Lastly, his wisdom and special attention are a big high to her self esteem....and she probably missed out on attention/affection from her dad.
The one problem that can happen is: once they both get older, she can feel like she missed out on living because she was too vulnerable: 1.didn't want the hurt of rejection to love a guy her own age, OR 2. deal with youth problems: money,etc...
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 February 2009): Sometimes older men are interested in younger girls because they think younger = prettier. Sometimes its because they're tryin to recapture their own youth and being with a younger girl makes them feel younger, etc. However, some men go for younger girls because of their naivete. Granted, as you mentioned before, an 18 year old is less "innocent" than a 12 year old, but they still are pretty innocent and have an innocent way of looking at the world (which, by the way, isn't a criticism... at 18 you've simply been in the world for less years than someone of 30... an 18 year old SHOULD be less cynical than a 30 year old).The problem is guys who want a more naive girl do so because they want to be able to control and manipulate them in a way they could never do with a woman their own age. They could lie to a young woman more easily than a older woman since past a certain age we just can see the lie for what it is. The older we get, too, the more we learn to trust our gut feelings (when we think someone is lying to us, or trying to manipulate us) rather than allowing some guy to talk us out of what we feel.Please don't get me wrong. There are plenty of 18 year olds who are as sophisticated as their older counterparts to recognize BS when they hear/see it. And there are PLENTY of older women who I know I have personally looked at in shock and said, "Aren't you a too old to be this naive???" So, it goes both ways. But the common perception is that younger=naive and therefore more malleable.But, anyway, you ask the question, there's my answer for what its worth.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 February 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionshe's not a gold digger lol... she's a tad odd, but intelligent. i just thought it was odd that the male wasn't looking at females his own age.
thanks for your answers so far!
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reader, wonderingcat  +, writes (16 February 2009):
 Anonymous bases his inputs on "evolution" theory: survival of the fittest! LOL. To add to his input, here's another thought: security? I mean, a man his age would be more likely to be in a more secured or at least is already on the way of establishing himself securily in the society, therefore she would also be that one step ahead of men her own age. Their need to procreate will be that much more secured too. ("Knowledge" is merely a process to get there, not a product nor a "target" in this case).A lot of these social/antropological theories, such as "evolution", may be only be analysed by "experts". But for those of us who our lives as we do everyday, they may be doing just what they feel like best or appropriate for us. It is other people that put "labels" on other people :-)I have always been pursued by men much much younger than myself, with the youngest being 12 years my junior. Maybe because as a petite Asian woman, I do look much younger than my age? If procreation is what the [younger] men ultimatly aimed for, yes, my age becomes an issue, but otherwise, it did not matter.If you are curious about your cousin, why don't you ask her what she sees in her relationship with her older b/f then? Then you can probably see another spectrum of a relationship "constellation" to enrich your own knowledge.Cat
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 February 2009): Vampire, that's a rather cynical way of looking at things isn't it?To the point though.I think, to some degree, it has a biological stand-point as well. Meaning that men are still fully capble of creating and dispensing sperm at pretty much the same levels when we are 60 as we are when we are 20.Our bodies still have the desire to procreate, even if the women of older age do not.So we naturally feel attracted to a female who will most be the most likely to create life.As this is harder for women the older they get...Having said that, there is also emotional and egotistical reasoning as well.Some men feel inadequate and un-needed when their partner loses their sex drive or is quite capable of surviving on their own.A younger woman is not in such a position yet. They are not yet at the level where they no longer need support or comfort. Not yet at a point where they know where life will take them. They crave knowledge. Knowloedge older men can give them. Knowledge older women have long since gained.So it means a lot to us now that men are no longer as powerful as we once were. It means a lot to us to be needed. Because women's lib took that away from us, and rightly so.A younger woman's sex drive is probably more in sync to an older man's as well.And everyone likes the look of smooth, firm and toned skin. Older women who have this are called MILF's and are widely regarded amongst younger men, such as myself.In conclusion.This is just one of those things that defies explanation. It seems perfectly clear in one's mind, but when one tries to say the words, make someone understand... it never actually makes any sense at all.It's just the way things are. And if an 16-18 year old girl/woman is happy with a 30-50 year old man, then who are we to say they cannot have that?Flynn 24
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reader, Plexi  +, writes (16 February 2009):
 young girls make them feel young again! they enjoy the company and feel youthful themselves around younger girls
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reader, SirenaBlusera  +, writes (16 February 2009):
 I think it's the individual girl. Perhaps they have other interests that attracted them to each other.
The only thing wrong with dating someone considerably older is that if you wind up marrying them, sadly, one of you is probably gonna outlive the other by many years.
It's selfish I know, but (like I said before) if I do marry, I hope I die first.
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reader, chibi vampire +, writes (16 February 2009):
 most men are interest in younger girl because their fresh meat, also they maybe feel like younger girl are easier to control, maybe to dominated them. it depends on the situation, tell me how the girl is cause is to simply for me to help u. most young girl are gold digger
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