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writes: I have really stuffed up. My ex boyfriend is currently travelling round Asia. I have a lot of unresolved feelings with him and a lot of things I haven't felt that I could say to him. I lost my virginity to him when I was 19 and a year later we had a bad break up. I am now 23. Anyway... I wrote two texts to him (they were very mean) but I DIDN'T send them. I just wanted to write them and get them off my chest. So I cancelled them before I sent them and they went to my unsent box. HOWEVER... a few minutes later I wrote a text to a friend but like texts to my ex I didnt send it and I saved it in my unsent box (cancelling it before it went through). But I got a reply from her!! I tested this theory by checking my balance over and over, and sure enough! even if I cancelled them fairly quickly they still went through! I am now so worried that the texts I hadnt meant to have sent have gone through to him!If he gets them he will never speak to me again. I have been working for three years to try and get a friendship going between us- and it was just starting to get good. There is still a chance that they didnt go through, I probably won't know for a month until he gets back from Asia (as I don't think he has global roaming). I went into an instant panic last night and can't stop thinking about it. I had terrible nightmares about it last night and I'm gonna have to be like this for a month until he gets back.I thought that I could say that my friend sent them to him as a joke and I tried to stop her. I don't know. All I know is that I have done some stupid things in my time, but as trivial as this may seem to some of you, it is the most uncomfortable and worrying position I have ever been in. Please help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 October 2005): just wait he might not have got them..also with text messages they have a time limit on them..therefore if he cant view messages while he is away then they probably wont deliver to him because the limit on messages is anything between one hour to a few weeks..if by any chance he does get them..tell him it was how you was feeling at the time and you never meant to sent them because you realised after writing the messages that writing them cleared your mind you just needed to get it off your chest.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 October 2005): Thank-you for all your help and suggestions everyone, you can't imagine how much support it has given me. Thank-you.
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reader, catat_foreva +, writes (14 October 2005):
A similar thing has happened to me before, but I had intended to send the text but to somebody else.
There are 2 possible outcomes here, one is that it won't go through and there is no need to worry. The other is that it did go through, so if the text does go through and he replies to it or mentions it just say that they are your true feelings for him now you have split up, that you didn't mean to send them and that you are sorry.
So just come straight out with it, and it should work out! Good Luck!
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reader, GISELA +, writes (14 October 2005):
I think that you should move on and meet other guys, there are planty of nice guys out there who will make you happy. I know that is difficult to forget about your ex-boyfriend...also you don't really need his friendship, you can meet plenty of people and develop great new relationships. Inspiration comes when you learn to let go. Also I think that if you have nightmares must be for a reason. One reason could be because you are very negative, projecting your fears by your subconscious, in this case you should keep positive and ignore these nightmares. If by keeping your mind positive you still have nightmares you could learn to interpret your dreams and remember in an objective way all the significant symbols and understand the message. Don't worry if he has received the messages, just learn to be positive and channel your negativity into doing something productive for yo and others... It may happen that he understands your frustration and therefore forgives you, but if he doesn't just don't worry and meet other people... There are many good chances awaiting in life, so there is no reason for being unhappy...
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reader, Rommana +, writes (14 October 2005):
Just be honest and tell him the truth - if he gets the text ,explain how you felt when he left you and that you still haven't got over the break up(it obviously hurt you) as it was clearly on your mind.You can never be friends until you have cleared up old issues and if things are going well theres no reason why he won't understand.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 October 2005): This is tricky! What a sticky situation. I guess you pray and pray that they haven't gone through- but if they have... It is hard because you obviously had no intention of sending them, but what were you doing writing them on your phone! Choose paper next time! Anyway, if they have gone through I am sorry for you, as it is going to be hard to explain. But hey, if you're meant to be friends then you still will be. Hopefully all your hard work over the past three years won't be undone! Best of luck. And hey- I hope the nightmares stop.
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