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writes:Ok, well, i slept with a friend of mine, that i havent known for all that long, guys have used her in the past for sex but we got drunk, 1 thing led to another, and yea. But i genuinly like her, what happened happened i cant do anything about that, and im not sure weather she did it because she was drunk or because she liked me aswell. Ive no idea how this will turn out tomorrow but any advice on how i can show her i like her for her and not for sex? i even told her about 4 or 5 times before anything happened if shes not sure about anything then we wont do it, but i dont know if she did it anyway because she was drunk. Its just bad because we have talked alot about 1 guy who used her then i went and slept with her, i feel really bad but at the same time i dont because i hope she did it for the same reason i did, what can i do if she takes it the wrong way to show her i do really like her and i want to be with her?thanks
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reader, Yos  +, writes (10 November 2007):
 Ask her to be your girlfriend. Be her boyfriend, and be a great boyfriend. Show her respect and care. Don't talk about the former men in her life, forget the ever existed. She doesn't want to be reminded, neither do you.
It sounds like she may have low self esteem, so be extra considerate about that. When dealing with someone with low self esteem, it pays to remind them a lot that you really do care about them, and have patience when they test your feelings for them.
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reader, becca78 +, writes (10 November 2007):
Tell her how you feel and ask her out. Even if she thinks you're only after sex once you've been out a few times she'll know that you're not.
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reader, lilgirly  +, writes (10 November 2007):
 hey,
you can never know what she thinks, and we can't know what she thinks! the only person who knows it is her!
so talk to her and tell her everything you just told us...
tell her everything ! it can't be that bad...
good luck byeXXX(tell us what happens next).
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reader, risk_ann  +, writes (10 November 2007):
If you really like her, then I suggest taking her out on a date, or something to make her feel special.
If she thinks that you're just doing it to get in her pants again, then make sure that at the end of the date that you just give her a kiss on the cheek, or even on the forehead.
I think that if you show more interest in her as a person than as a person to sleep with, she might get that you actually like her.
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