A
female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:Just looking for some general advice from both guys and girls.......my boyfriend and i have been together for almost a year now......he is my first boyfriend and before i met him i always had a picture built up in my mind of the perfect guy for me.....what he would look like...what job he would have etc......my bf now is so so completely opposite to what i had wanted in a guy but i really do love him so so much.....I just sometimes wonder that with him being my first boyfriend that maybe the perfect guy is still out there......maybe there is someone cuter (he is lovely but def not the cutest guy) and with a better job....what if i am missing out on mr right and just settling for the first guy to come my way.....then again i cant imagine life without him......he is not the cutest guy and he does little things that irritate me beyond belief......he doesn take pride in what he wears or anything whereas i am very focused on the litle details.....is that just a guy thing....or am i being crazy and worrying too much about nothing..... Reply to this Question
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (14 April 2011):
I think, like many people, you've built up this image of the perfect person that simply doesn't exist. I think that this is very much a sign that mentally, you're not ready for a relationship. The perfect guy doesn't exist. At all. Every guy has a fault. I think you'd be better off alone, just focusing on your own life until you have a clearer idea about guys. You need to spend more time dating, more time with numerous guys (just as friends), so you understand us. I don't think you have the experience with guys yet to be able to commit. At this rate, you'll end up just stringing guys along and being disappointed. You need to move on from this one and spend time dating and making friends with other guys.
Spend time understanding us, and you'll find Mr Perfect as you find him, not as you wish him to be.
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