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writes:I lost my virginity to my BF but he slept with 6 girls (that I know of) before me. I knew that he wasn't a virgin before we got intimate. This didn't bother me before but now it's bothering me.To me, sex is something special and something you only share with someone you really care for. Apart from three previous GF's, he's had two one night stands and slept with another girl after only a few dates.Even now when we have sex it's still very special to me...I feel so close to him. But to know that he did all that with some girls without even knowing them…that’s what bothers me.He's amazing in every other way. He loves me and treats me well...but the fact that he's done something I consider so special with so many other women really bothers me. How do I get over this for my own sanity?
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 April 2010): It doesnt really matter,you know it always happens between a boy and a girl.SO what if your BF has had sex.I know you are a nice girl but...........this shouldn't bother you!as long as you really love him and he really loves you.What happened before had to happen because sex is very normal during the young age for boys and girls-who especially lost their virginity in the young.Maybe in the future I too will have different kinds of girlfriend and sex in the future because i do not want to miss any chance during the young.They say we do nt have any freedom after becoming permanent so these are what boys do and im sure these are what irls want because you cant no to sex.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (19 April 2010):
In these years of liberation, sex has become something that is no longer just reserved for marriage, or the right person. Sometimes, it's the person right now that we want to satisfy us. This is something you need to accept and move on with. If you don't, and you let it get to you, then it will affect where this relationship is going. The thing that matters if that you waited for the right person for you. He has done what he has done, and it can't be changed. Now you need to accept it and move forward. Remember that above those other girls, he has chosen you because he wants you. That's all that matters.
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reader, bharat mehta  +, writes (19 April 2010):
 You are right in saying that sex is special, keep reserve for special person, like 'life-partner', but sex has universal element, so it can be share with any 'desirous' person, if not lovable. In orthodox society, where choice of 'relationship' came from family, where your ideal was easy to follow, but in modern-free and individualistic society, every individual has to make own choice, own inquiry to check the strength of relationship, so sex loss its specialty.
Considering these above narrated fact, one is bound to find out new ideal, like honesty continuity and consistency in mental attitude which can be share with specially chosen person.
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