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writes:Okay...so, I'm the one who asked how to truly rid myself of this married man. Well, he disappeared (or popped out) again and I have the nerve to be angry, hurt, upset, used, defiled, etc. What's wrong with me? What hold does this creep have on me? Why do I keep wasting my energy and thoughts on this coward butt wipe?
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reader, AuntyEm  +, writes (19 October 2010):
 Could be many things, fear of being alone, fear that you wont find someone better (not that hard I imagine), maybe you remember the good times and cant let that go or maybe your just loving the excitement of an illicit affair. Extra marital affairs often end badly for the woman involved because they form much stronger emotional bonds which seem a bit like building a castle...hard to destroy or break down.
Logic is screaming at you that this is a waste of time, that it's never going to work, that he's always going to keep you dangling, but your heart is trying to find a reason to stick with it for some or all of the reasons previously mentioned...
Only you can break the cycle and move on, there isnt a single person on the planet who can do it for you and getting involved with someone else might mean you repeat the same mistakes.
Eventually the whole situation will become so tedious, so intolerable and you will be so dang tired of even trying to work it out, that your heart will let go and move on. It's not much of a choice but you could cut the cord now, deal with the pain and move on...or wait until your sick to death of the whole blessed mess!!
Good luck xxx
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