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*enelopepitstop
writes:my friend is in her thirties and still stays at home, i think between us we have exhausted her options of finding a man shes quite fussy when it comes to what she wants from him job house money etc..and this is a reson i think shes still single, shes tried online dating nothings come from it, shes out every weekend and doesnt meet much guys...help what else can she do to find a guy?
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 July 2009): Sorry- so if your friend met a guy who still stays at home and is quite fussy in what he looks for in a woman, and any potential partner for him must have her own house car and job etc- your friend WOULDN'T be interested in dating him??
Please tell me she is not as fickle as she is portrayed in your post?
Perhaps she could hang out in the bank so she could check any potential date's account balance before getting involved?
Perhaps she could think about where she wants to spend time with her partner after they get together and go these those places before to meet such a guy as would enjoy those places?
But... she's doing that anyway, right?
Why on earth would she be so fickle as this? Has she really never met anyone she'd be interested in without these things?? What is She doing to be interesting/ 'viable' as a partner herself if this is really the attitude she holds??
Does she even want to find a partner at all? If I only wnated a partner for his house, car and income, I wouldn't find that to be any motivation to spend my life with someone at all!
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reader, Jason32477  +, writes (15 July 2009):
 You could always print this page out and show her.All anyone really needs in a relationship is A. Trust B. Respect C. Friendship D. To be treated with kindness. If you have these things then you are blessed.If you feel you need more then your probably the one who is not giving what is needed.
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reader, penelopepitstop +, writes (15 July 2009):
penelopepitstop is verified as being by the original poster of the question lol phil i hope not i think as someone said here theres an element of her, being so used to being single shes not trying but then when i see her its a case of shes "on the shelf and it will be her on her own with her cats" lol i feel for her i wish i could help her find a man..
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 July 2009): I totally agree with Jason. The normal accepted course of events is to meet, fall in love, get engaged, get married, buy a house together and then have kids to bring up in the happy home.
She wants to open her Christmas presents in October - if you'll forgive the analogy.
I'm afraid there won't be many men attracted to someone with her outlook. I have a friend who is of the same disposition - she's 58, still single, still lives at home. Basically an old maid. Your friend will end up the same way unless she has an attitude adjustment.
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reader, penelopepitstop +, writes (15 July 2009):
penelopepitstop is verified as being by the original poster of the question bless her shes not a gold digger i think she just doesnt see a future with a broke guy who lives with his mum lol but i do think shes too fussy
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reader, Jason32477 +, writes (15 July 2009):
lol Not be so picky.We are all human and as such we are all flawed.I wonder if she was a guy would she date herself?And as a guy with top criteria being "job house money" she sounds like a gold digger,and not truly interested in a loving relationship.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 July 2009): i would suggest dont rush her into this let her decide its good that shes taking her time however if shes trying to find someone does she fix herself up for example her hair does she wax her eyebrows her upperlip does she try to look somewhat attractive? does she wear updated clothes?after this let nature take its course. one can find someone even while working outside on your lawn or at the grocery store when you least expect it. once she finds an attraction she wont be so picky about him best wishes
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reader, Darcy2uk +, writes (15 July 2009):
You dont find them,they somehow just happen when you least expect it.
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reader, Steven8767  +, writes (15 July 2009):
 are you sure she wants to be in a relationship? maybe she enjoys being single
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