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writes:I am curious to see what your boyfriend does when you are sick/unwell. Do they check in to see how you are? i have been off work for 5 days with the flu which is going around pretty badly where i am. I rarely take time off work (last year i probably had 3 days off sick) i have found it strange, that he has not asked me once how i am feeling, if i am better or offered to do anything. We have been together for nearly 4 years. Reply to this Question
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reader, Basschick  +, writes (14 July 2012):
 Most guys really suck at care taking. Because here's the thing; most guys want to be left alone when they're sick. Most. They don't want to be babied. They don't like feeling helpless or dependent on someone. Sometimes they get embarrassed, like they are somehow less of a man for being sick. So when we get sick, they assume we want the same treatment; to be left alone. Which is exactly what they know how to do, very well. I used to feel really bad when my husband didn't rush to my side, take my temperature every hour, make me chicken soup and fluff my pillow. I thought what an insensitive ass. Then one day he got sick and I rushed in to do all the things I expected him to do for me. I was met with a grungy guy who was sullen and ungrateful and I realized how different we are when we're sick. Women are natural care-takers. Men are not. If they don't know how to fix you, they'd just as soon kick the tires and walk off. Hope this helps you out.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 July 2012): Oh dear I hope you feel better soon hun! My boyfriend is great when I am sick. I was actually struck down for four days with a really bad virus with vomitting dioreah sweating the works. I could barely leave the bathroom and was humilitated but my boyfriend was great he wiped me down with cold flannels, bathed me, rubbed my back and pretty much done everything for me and stayed for the full four days to make sure I at and was ok. I think he should have been much more concerned especially after such a long time being together? Is he normally like this or is he normally more caring? This is a big red flag what if something serious happened and you were paralysed or had a major operation? How could you rely on him to take care of you? Hope everything works out!xx
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reader, cute angel +, writes (13 July 2012):
 Wow!that's very inconsiderate of your boyfriend to not even check on you..rude much?When I fall sick which I tend to atleast one in 2 months lol ccause I work in a hospital,my boyfriend turns into this angel sent my god to me..He cooks,he even offers to do my dishes,makes morning breakfast and even sees to it that I take my tablets on time..so he pampers me a lot especially the time's I'm sick..so I found this very unusual that your boyfriend dint do any of this:( I think this was the time for him to stand by you,be it a small thing but to show he cared..I mean eventually if you two want to get married how can you be sure he can support you through ur hardships when he couldn't stand by you when u had a flu..I think your boyfriend should show a little more concern..Anywys hope u get well sooonTake care x
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reader, person12345  +, writes (13 July 2012):
 That is unusual and inconsiderate for a boyfriend of 4 years to ignore you when you're sick. Even if he was paranoid of catching it or something, he could at least call and/or text! I wonder if he's normally an inconsiderate person or if this is out of character for him?
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (13 July 2012):
 Oh dear... has he had contact at all with you?
When I have a cold, my fiance (we live together) will make me tea and soup and make sure I take my medicine.
I had major surgery last June and he took off work and stayed with me and cared for me 24/7
he's very attentive to my needs when I'm sick... and reminds me to take my medication and runs errands etc.
Some folks just don't' do well with sickness and avoid it at all costs...
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