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writes:I was getting ready to leave my friend's house when I asked him for a hug. He accepted by stretching his arms out towards me, inviting me in. At first, he had his hands on my upper back. Then, after a few seconds, he decided to lower them down to my waist. Our bodies were completely touching. He had his head right next to mine, but then he brought his head down over my shoulder and placed it near my neck. While he was hugging me, he pulled me in closer and exhaled. After awhile, he let go by slowly sliding his hands from the back of my waist to my sides. Reply to this Question
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reader, 02DuszJ  +, writes (31 July 2018):
 Boys your age don't seek out close friendships with girls unless they're crushing on them..
There's a crude saying 9 out of 10 of your male friends want to sleep with you.. thats especially true for teenage boys! Hugs aside just look at the odds.
Just ask him if he feels the same as you maybe?? But honestly at your age tread carefully and make sure he SEEKS YOU out, puts your needs first and shows he cares for you! *Before* you jump into bed with him- make sure he proved himself other than just a flirty touch here and there.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 July 2018): Correction:
"Boys are different about these situations from girls; and more often it's the girl who ends up disappointed, or broken-hearted."
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 July 2018): What an odd question. Haven't you ever been hugged before? Unless he did something inappropriate, what is the point to your question?
I want you to read your question back to yourself. Why did you study each and every single move he made after asking for a hug?
What are you hoping for?
Here we go, another friendship being turned into something more than friendship. Not saying you're to blame for anything. Just making an observation.
If he's a friend, and you are hoping for it to be more than that. You're at a good age to learn to separate friendship from romance. Just because it's a guy, doesn't mean he should automatically consider becoming your boyfriend. It's lazy and opportunistic to prey on the convenience of a friendship. It is not to be considered a "bird-in-the-hand" situation. If he's not romantically-interested in you, then you'll get your feelings hurt; and things between you will get awkward.
If he is, and you're not. Same outcome.
Your description sounds like a friendly hug. Do you want more than that? What if it isn't? I read the the post word for word; and unless there's a lot of wishful-thinking going on here, it was the description of nothing more than a friendly and familiar hug. Guys don't usually hug a girl the same as he'd hug another guy. He will also follow your lead; if you're touchy-feely, he will be too.
Don't jump to any conclusions just yet. Wait for more signals, or for him to come right-out and say something.
If you read DC a lot. You will see a lot of posts where teenage-girls are trying to turn their friendships with boys into romances. They often do not workout. They might date for awhile; then he lapses back into feeling like she's a friend, or he wants to date other girls.
Boys are different about these situations from girls; and more often it's the girl who ends up disappointed or broken-heated. Guys fall for their female-friends too; but they are more likely crushes, or he's just horny. If she rejects him, he'll sulk; but soon as another pretty girl comes along, they quickly get-over her. If he's in your age-group, that's often the case.
If you want to explore romance, be my guess; but I want you to be prepared, if he isn't interested in a romantic-sense.
Be careful also if he's only interested in sex, and nothing more than that. Protect your feelings, and your body.
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (30 July 2018):
 You asked for a hug, he provided. Seems like he's a good hugger and/or comfortable with you. It sounds like you're asking if this was a hug trying to communicate more than just friendship.
If you like him, stop analyzing the little behaviors and get your answer - ask him out on a date. If he says yes - hooray! It WAS more than a hug! If he says no, you'd be better off as friends then - it was just a friendly hug.
You won't find the answer here, my darling. He is the only one who really knows. Good luck!!
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reader, Andie's Thoughts +, writes (30 July 2018):
 A hug. It means "you asked for a hug. I'm giving you a hug."
A lot of people, particularly young people, have a way of hugging women and a way of hugging men. No matter which woman or man it is, the hug stays the same as it is for the other men/women. The exception is when dating. Lots of guys hug their female friends like that, the same way that some people flirt without any genuine interest behind it.
Why are you reading into this? Do you like him? If so, why don't you just ask him out for coffee or lunch?
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