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Should I go away for a week or less with my friend?

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Question - (29 July 2018) 5 Answers - (Newest, 31 July 2018)
A female United Kingdom age 26-29, anonymous writes:

I'm unsure of whether to go away for a week or less with my friend ,it will be in a few days ,as I'm trying to make my student loan last as best as I can until end of September time when I start college again . other reasons why im unsure are ive never been away from home without my parents and my friend can be a little unorganised at times which puts me off slightly as I may have to travel a bit on my own only for a few hours and get worried incase she has accidently given me the wrong information , I also may get bored when im away and may want to come back after like 3 days also if I go I will has less money and it feels really bad when you cant always afford something or cant go out because you don't have enough money . I did work in café but last month the café had to close but have been looking for a job since and I have had to use my student loan as I have no wage money obviously . the reasons why I would like to go are , I feel I need to know what its like to be away from home without my parents and Im hoping and really want to volunteer abroad or be away from home for a few weeks and months next year and this would be the perfect opportunity to know what its like to not be at home without my parents . advice would be appreciated

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A reader, anonymous, writes (31 July 2018):

Don't squander your student loan money! You can't afford the trip, and it wouldn't be worth it anyway; if you get abandoned or stranded by someone you described as "unreliable." How much fun would it be counting your pennies?

Learn to be responsible with your money. Save the money for your essentials. Take a pass and take your trip with someone you can trust to be reliable and will watch your back. You don't have a job; so replacing that student loan money to pay for books or tuition will be a problem!

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (30 July 2018):

It sounds as if you would not enjoy seeing more of the world and experiencing being away from your parents under these circumstances.

Seeing more of the world is great, but only enjoyable if you can be confident in the plans and arrangements and who you're going with.

It can turn out to be a bit of a nightmare if you haven't planned properly, got contingency plans in place and feel sure you have the right information before you go.

I would absolutely put this trip off until you have more money and have a travelling companion you can trust. If she is going to give you the wrong information or leave you alone for a few hours and you don't want to be, then it won't be enjoyable and it won't work.

Leave travelling for a while would be my advice and stay within your financial comfort zone. I would think it would be better if your first trip away from home is something you can look upon fondly.

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A male reader, Fatherly Advice United States +, writes (30 July 2018):

Fatherly Advice agony auntI honestly think you should get out and see some of the world.

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I also honestly believe that you should not take your first trip with this unreliable friend. Better to be experienced before you travel with a scatter-brain.

and

I also honestly believe that you can't afford the trip right now.

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A female reader, Honeypie United States +, writes (30 July 2018):

Honeypie agony auntIf you really can not afford a vacation/holiday then don't. You will have PLENTY of time to experience being away from the family soon enough. :)

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (30 July 2018):

The choice is yours.

You have pointed out that you cant really afford to travel even if you want to and this would probably be the deciding point for me.

I have noticed that short trips become increasingly expensive even if they are only for five days and having no money to do anything just makes it into a hardship holiday.

There will be many more opportunity to take trips abroad so this is not a once only chance.

Different people require different standards but if you do decide to go I suggest you book accomodation at a youth hostel before you go.

Going away with the attitude that it will all work out regardless of cash and prebookings can be a recipe for disaster.

You will have to buy every item of food and drink usually at inflated prices so you must have enough spare cash to survive on.

Finally there is no guarantee that your student loan will be there in time for the start of next term so it would be wise to hold back some cash incase it doesnt arrive on time.

Friends are all well and good but you soon realise that you all come from different financial backgrounds.

Some have parents and grandparents who drop them quite a bit of money as and when required.

If you know that your family cannot afford to drop cash on you, then you must be vigilant how you spend your money.

Friendships soon wilt when you cant afford the basics and they feek obliged to buy you coffee and a sandwich in the cafeteria.

Most likely no one would offer and you would be looking longingly at the food on display, wishing you could afford.

"Why is she so broke?" they mutter while mentally moving away.

" Oh I spent it all on holiday when I went away..it just got increasingly expensive! And my loans not in yet. "

"Too bad! " they mutter "do you want a chip?"

And you go hungry with a rumbling belly and some excuse about being on a diet.

Now you may not be from that cruel and nasty part of the world and you may be surrounded by people who do a whip round to get you some cash to tide you over, but in the world I come from if youve got no money you go hungry!

So if I couldnt afford to go then I wouldnt do it, but as I said the choice is yours!

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