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writes:My ex husband left me for this younger girl he fell in love with. the girl is twenty three and he is thirty four. well he was a womanizer but was very rich, money maker at the job, very successful and very well known but his job had him out of home a lot. He is also very good looking with a turn around personality and very popular.With me he always cheated, lied to the public about our marriage being perfect and did drugs, said he was single while engaged to me, overdosed and all sorts of wrong things. He even kissed a woman on the lips in front of me but I didnt mind, still stayed with him and partied with those friends who saw him kiss that woman in front of me.He never left me for any of his side girlfriends but he had affairs every year but he left me for herI LET HIM do DRUGS/WEED/FREE SEX just stayed with him for 8 years. WHEN he was going through a bad emotional patch, everybody was criticizing him, he was flipping out at guys, I was doing makeup, LAUNCHING my makeup website, PARTYING with friends during his job suspension etc.But after he met this girl,he stopped womanizing and gave up drugs as the girl had threatened him that if he touches drugs or steroids again,hes going to see the last of her.She had taken him to rehab and personally kept tabs on his antics. But the girl is so stupid and dependent.She has only two gfs and she doesn't even spend time with them.Shes always with my ex and they go around the town holding hands,sometimes kissing openly and talking.Even when hes out of home shes either studying for her college classes,or teaching my 5 year old daughter or cooking dishes or taking her to shopping, zoos, kids theme park as my five year old tells me.And shes so small, only 5.3 when my ex was 6.3 and i am 5.6.My friends kept taking my photos always so if i am sitting in a kids toy car and my friends lying on the floor in public that photo is also taken or posing with three friends or at a bar or at my Halloween home parties with all of us wearing costumes. I LOVED TO PARTY, TAKE PHOTOS OF MYSELF and UPLOAD IT ON THE NET AND LOVED DRINKINGI had my own webpage dedicated to me by fans and i loved that page. Everyone thought what a great woman i was who stayed with an unstable unfaithful man.I also SET UP my own makeup business, which DEALT with flashy clothes, makeup artistry and fun summer nail paints, with a friend and had posted the entire thing on twitter and has received great fan following. People told him on twitter that i was a role model etc. how they admired meAnd last week i heard my ex on a radio show. they asked him to talk about his new wife who is expecting his baby, and he praised her highly. he even said that whenever he loses his cool or gets angry, he always remembers her face, how she would feel if she saw him like that. he said shes very sensitive about him, spent hours pursuing him to go to rehab, she shows how much she cares about him so he has to stop if he ever gets thoughts to do something wrong.He takes her everywhere even when hes on road. I saw pics of them at his signing, she was standing behind him, and had her arms around his neck while getting pictured.Honestly what's so great about that foolish girl? Even some of my fans hate her and call her a silly girl.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 November 2012): There's something to be said of a doormat who puts up with so much crap and lets a guy walk all over you; they will never respect you. Clearly he needed someone to stand up to him; someone who set the boundaries and expected him to follow it. But it is quite possible their relationship wont last either. He may behave for awhile but his old ways may surface years later. By then you will have moved on and really won't care. Just learn from this experience and apply it to your next relationship. Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 November 2012): he kissed another woman in front of you, he was testing the boundaries, he cheated did drugs whatever and you would put up with that, seems like you were very indifferent to anything he could do, then he got somebody who cared ;)you're trying to find faults with the other woman, when in fact you should be getting on with your life he seems happy, it's time for you to let go
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 November 2012): It sounds like she has a good head on her shoulders - working towards an education, smart and responsible. Partying, posing for photos or drinking is not for her - she is very family oriented, loves to cook and provides a simple stable life for him. Silly friendships don't matter to her. For her it seems that quality is more important than quantity. She isn't superficial or care what others think of her.
She also forced him to be a better man. She set the bar high and he had to work towards bettering himself in order to be with her. She was a challenge. Because of all the hard work of pursuing her and making himself a better man, he got a stable and happy life. The life he has with her is what he was longing for deep down. It brings him more happiness and satisfaction.
The life you had with him was an unhappy one. It was hectic and superficial with too much partying, too much drama, drugs and "friends" around. It obviously didn't make him or you happy. He chose a simple happy stable life with her over the craziness of his past life. Being with her has lead to a healthier, happier and more stable life.
He simply matured and realized that what she was offering him was of more substance than the crazy life he was stuck in before.
Hope this helps. Chin up! Time to let go and move on building your own happy life!
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reader, HappyPlace  +, writes (6 November 2012):
 It sounds like you rolled over and did whatever he wanted, without any thought for yourself. I personally think that is an unattractive quality. She stands up to him by the sound of it and he clearly likes it.
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