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writes:I'm am writing again in regards to a woman I love. I am also a woman in my 40's. I told this woman I had feelings that were deeper than just friendship back in Jan. She denied her feelings for me, but did tell me that she was in a loveless marriage with no children at home. I told her that her emails led me to believe that she felt the same way about me that I felt about her and she said she was sorry for that and she was just being silly and really didn't know how to act having such a great friend as me. However she hasn't really toned her emails down and she had me come and spend a week with her in Florida while her husband was gone on a business trip. When I left Florida to come home there was an email waiting for me that said: ("It was nice to be with you and for John to be away. Just us girls!!! But it has been a very sad day for me because I didn't want you to go! My heart felt empty all day"). Anyway here we are several months later and I just told my friend that I needed to stop reminding her how I felt about her because she obviously didn't feel the same way. Yet here I find her on one of her latest emails signing off as follows: (Cheer Up sweet Pea!!Love and Miss you way more than you know!!!!!!) I don't know what to think anymore. What does that mean? Love and Miss you way more than you know????? Is she trying to tell me something???? I would love to share some of the emails with someone that would be interested in commenting on them so they can get a better perspective of the relationship. Let me know if your interested.
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reader, chrissy32789 +, writes (5 September 2007):
 hey hun i would really be interested in hearing some of these emails that way i kinda get a better idea of whats going on you can private email me on here.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 September 2007): hi hun, ive borrowed a friends account to answer which is why im going to come up as a 40yr old man! I was in a similar situation to yours with a friend of mine although she wasn't married. She knew i was gay and was very flirtageous with me, in emails, txts and general conversation. She was also very touchy feely, loved hugging me and holding my hand etc. Everyone presumed we were a couple but she became very shy and defensive whenever it was mentioned, which is where i got confused! After one particularily eventful night we ended up sleeping in the same bed, she declined my offer to loan her some PJ's and slept naked next to me instead. After this i got a little sick of her mind games and decided to do something about it, the nxt time she sent me a flirtageous email i raised the stakes with the one i sent back,this kept going for a while. The next time we met she was as hands on usual, after one of her longer hugs i kissed her.It took her by susprise! but i got my desired reaction. Basically what im trying to say is raise the stakes, if she keeps saying all these flirtageous things say them back, but raise the stakes, if she backs off then shes probably using you to fill the gap in her marriage. If she plays along, nxt time you two get together take a chance and kiss her, its very forward i know but its guaranteed to give you an answer, again judge her response and act accordingly. If she kisses you back, you two need to sit down and have a serious chat( after you've had some fun!) she is married after all. keep us posted, love x
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