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writes:When you meet someone and get into a relationship with them while they're going through a rough time, but then they finally come out of it a while after you break up (they are finally improving their life and are happier), and they used to call you all the time even after the breakup just to talk, but now they only call you when they are feeling down and want to talk about their day's bad experience, could you say they associate you with negativity and don't have much use for you otherwise? Reply to this Question
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reader, curious0hot +, writes (31 January 2010):
 I think it means they just see you as a shoulder to lean on. Someone he/she can come to with their problems. This can be a positive thing, but it seems like it makes you uncomfortable. If that is the case, you should tell the person about it and (hopefully) they will respect your feelings.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (31 January 2010):
It means this person is using you for emotional support and nothing else.
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reader, daisydiane +, writes (31 January 2010):
 They trust your opinion very much & they don't know what they should do,or B they want to make you feel bad,sad & depressed.I think the person doesn't feel in love with you
anymore but values your opinion and wants to see how you feel about what's happening.Perhaps they like your advice?
It's very true that men & women can be friends & especially in 2010 the message has caught on how true it is.If it's a female,then she cares about you as a friend & likes your advice but if the person is bringing you down,then I wouldn't call them a true friend.If it's not a constant thing,then it's all good & shouldn't bother you much if the person is someone you like,unless you are still in love or carrying a torch for them.This person sounds like they have moved on & so should you,ok?
Just a good bit of advice that I hope you'll appreciate.
Best wishes!
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reader, QuirkLady +, writes (31 January 2010):
 No, I'd say they are using you for emotional support.
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reader, camrcam2 +, writes (31 January 2010):
 Well if you have broken up with this person and there still calling you to tell you about their problems it, and to listen to your advise the that shows that this person has a great deal of trust in you. I know you may think this is a way for this person to complain about there life to you well it very well maybe, but if there honestly listening to you advice and taking it into consideration then you have a good relationship to that respect. i know that you see my about age above my question and think that im to immature to be taking this seriosly, but the fact is this happens to many people diffrent ages.i also have a friend i go golfing with like every 2 weeks with so we can take about our problems and try giving advice to each other. also to answer the last bit of your question i dont think they are associating there negativity with you they just want some one to listen to them and help em outta rough times. i hope this has helped you if not sorry.
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