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writes:My guy friend and I were sitting together in a room by ourselves and we were facing each other. After he was done talking to me, we both became silent and stared into each other's eyes. He was staring at me for about 10 seconds and I was starting to feel uncomfortable. While he was staring at me, he had his head tilted to the side and he was smiling at me. Also, his lower eyelids were raised. The thing is, we've known each other for a few years now and I've always seen him as a really good friend, but he's in a relationship with another girl. He's never given me that look before. Why was he staring at me like that? What was he thinking? Reply to this Question
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reader, Andie's Thoughts  +, writes (26 July 2018):
 I think he had a crick in his neck bc a burp that made it look like he was smiling.
In all seriousness, OP, ask his girlfriend or ignore him.
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reader, Youcannotbeserious +, writes (25 July 2018):
 Perhaps you should ask him girlfriend why he was staring at you like that while you were alone in a room together? I am sure she will have a view on it.
Sweetheart, he is in a relationship. Don't mess with him, and don't allow him to mess with YOU. If you two want a relationship, then you both need to be free agents. Don't be someone's bit of spare. You are worth more than that.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (25 July 2018):
 What does it mean?
It means he is playing games with your head and you are letting him.
And OP, you know what it meant. I don't think you are dense so don't put on an act that this is OK. You certainly wouldn't want YOUR BF to give "that" look to another girl, now would you?
So next time roll you eyes and ask him what's up or ask him if he is trying to be cute with you? If he says yes, to that - tell him to save it for his GF.
If you want others to respect you and you relationships (and friendships) then BE respectful to others.
Last little guess.... you like the guy.. right? A little?
If that is true, then HE knows it and is DEFINITELY playing head-games with you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 July 2018): Janniepeg is right! He shouldn't be staring at you, tilting his head, or squinting. None of that! He's testing you to see if you'll go for the bait. He's making a pass at you!
Tell him that look makes you uneasy, and remind him to behave! You like and respect his girlfriend. He shouldn't be grinning and giving you crazy looks! To tell you the truth, the way you describe it, it seems really creepy! I think that's the vibe you're getting, and the reason you've written your post.
He wasn't thinking anything good!
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (25 July 2018):
 In your case, he has a girlfriend and it's inappropriate for him to stare at you, or at another girl for 10 seconds. For some men who are not able to devote to a relationship, being tied to one person is a sacrifice for not being able to get on with others. To stare at you is to know that he still got attention from women, and that if he ever is to leave a relationship, he can get a replacement right away. Boys who are emotionally immature has this fear that once he's in a relationship, his opportunities for others are lost. Flirting with other women is to rebel against the requirement to be faithful. If not cheating, at least he wants to get the satisfaction that he is still attractive to other women. He still got other women thinking about him.
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