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writes:Well the last few days I have been thinking and I realize I don't want to date anymore... It's crazy because everything in my life feels like it's slowing down. I know what a guy wants in a relationship and what I want, but never have I not wanted to date because of a guy. I always did rebound dating and I got over that guy with the New one. Yet now I try to do that and it's not working anympre. I've dated 4 people in the last 6 months and not one of them I am able to focused on and now I'm not able to focus on any of it at all. What does this mean? Reply to this Question
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (11 September 2016):
 Rebounds is not a "cure-all" for a broken heart. And I think maybe you are learning that too. partner are not like shoes, just get a new one and you are good to go!
And perhaps these 4 people you dated in the span of 6 months were not really the "right" guys for you. They were just available.
So if you have come to a point where dating doesn't seem like something you WANT to do, that is fine. Take a break from dating and chasing guys and focus on you, your school, education, family, friends. Save up to travel or to do things you WANT to do. Set some goals.
There really IS more to life (even as a teen) than boys.
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reader, Andie's Thoughts  +, writes (11 September 2016):
 Don't date people you don't have a connection with. Rebounding is always a bad idea, so it's good that you're getting out of the habit.
Take a break from dating and focus on everything else.
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reader, Youcannotbeserious +, writes (11 September 2016):
 I'll tell you what I think is happening. You are maturing a lot quicker than your years. Despite your young age, you have already realised that there needs to be a connection between two people for a relationship to work. You also sound like you have been running from one date to the next to not be alone, regardless of how "unsuitable" they may be. Many young people (and many not so young people) believe that having absolutely ANYONE in their life is better than having nobody. You, on the other hand, have already realised that having the wrong person is a non-starter and just leaves you empty and numb. I would recommend you don't date for a while. Learn to stand as an individual, instead of as half of a couple. Go out with friends. Enjoy life without any complications. Learn to like your own company and do things on your own if you need to. Get a hobby if you don't already have one. Take up something you have always felt drawn to. (That is also a good way to meet new friends who you have something in common with.)When someone worthy of your time and attention comes along, you will know it and dating will be an altogether more pleasurable experience. Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 September 2016): Between 18 and 21 it's perfectly normal. In-fact, you're a parent's dream; because you're starting to realize that there's more to being young and single than always dating.
So now is a good time to focus on an education and a career. It's not all about chasing boys, sometimes you've got to step back and look at yourself; and review what you're doing with your life. Is it going anywhere? Have you set any goals? What have you accomplished up to now, other than breaking a string of hearts, or getting your own heart broken? What do your grades look like? Is there room for improvement in all areas of your life?
You don't need to date anymore if you don't feel like it. You should now be thinking more about your future, and getting your act together.
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