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writes:What does it mean if I move on from guys quickly? Like a guy i really really like, could hurt my feelings and make me feel worthless. But i wont get upset over it, i just think i'm not going to let them get to me. Or if it doesn't work out with a guy, i don't think much of it because i'm already over it... I just find that no matter how much i like a guy or if i get rejected, or even if i get bored of them. I can easily just be like okay fine, move on straight away and not think so much about it? Sometimes, it sounds harsh but i don't care much if i hurt their feelings or disappointed them, which makes me feel cold. Cause i'm actually a caring, happy loyal person? Does this mean i'm heartless? Because most girls i know when this stuff happens to them they try to work things out with the guys, when i just accept it. And they can't move on easily from a guy that they really liked... it just makes me question what kind of person i am and why this happens? I can't understand why i don't get effected?
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (8 May 2011):
 Everybody is different and no it doesnt mean that you are cold hearted. I think you have some block up though that you never let yourself truly fall for someone as then you wont get hurt in the process. Did you have a happy upbringing and are your parents still together? There could be many reasons why you have this block up, but it doesnt mean that there is anything wrong with you. I guess you just need to spend more time on learning to trust people and open up to them. Goodluck.
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reader, maofone  +, writes (8 May 2011):
Im like you. All my girlfriends tell me that I act like a dude more than a woman because of this. I always keep a plan B guy on the side just in case me and the main guy dont work out. I figure heys guys do it to us,so y not do it to them. And it never fails-the guy comes back trying to get back with me after he sees that im not running behind him after the breakup or after theyve messed up with or been messed over by the next chick. I think women like us do this because we're still keeping some kinda guard over our heart. We've most likely been hurt 1 good time in the past and told ourselves,Never again will i let a man bring me down that low again! Sometimes i also wonder is it a curse or a blessing
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reader, hope_i_could_help  +, writes (8 May 2011):
 Its just natural! I mean you should be glad to have this gift. Some girls had a hard time getting over someone for a long time and you think that is good? No! It's better that you move on easily. Just like you. Another is, it just show how positive you are and how you enjoy and love your life. Your a carefree person (I think, coz I'm like that too) so, you should not problem it, but time will come that there is someone that would make it hard for you to move on. You just haven't found him yet, so for now, enjoy it.
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reader, N91 +, writes (8 May 2011):
 Not at all, if anything, this is a good thing as you wont spend weeks maybe months moping around and feeling down at the end of a relationship.I wish I could get over things as quickly as you do!
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reader, Steve_S +, writes (8 May 2011):
 Not heartless but uncommitted.Once you find the right guy, one that you love; it may be different and maybe, just maybe they'll mess your head up.You know the saying "What goes around, comes around"...You just haven't found the right person yet to break through that hard outer shell. Or you're too cold to really experience true care and affection.Steve
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 May 2011): Cant you look inside yourself and be honest and answer this question yourself? I'm sure if you were really honest with yourself you could find the answer. I think it sounds okay in a sense, you are saving yourself alot of heartache by being this way. You are, however, very young and I do not doubt that one day you will meet someone and you will not be able to react like this. It might be that subconsciously you are not wanting to be hurt. If it is bothering you you could explore this with a therapist. But therapy is only one answer, and in a sense I am prone to say 'if it ain't broke, don't fix it. 'That said, i have been with men who have never had their hearts broken and they are cold people to be around and think nothing of bailing out or relationships when things are less than perfect. But relationships are often not perfect. Just be careful that you dont end up single forever, and remember this quote I once heard - 'A heart that has never been broken is a sterile place.'God bless.
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