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writes:Ok, so bare with me on this. I'm 24 and I have a "sex friend". We have been seeing each other for just over a year now, but I'm not a skinny girl, and you can see I'm not skinny. I'm a curvy 16 and I've never gotten completely naked with him. I've always had a vest top on to cover my belly. Or I get dressed up in sexy outfits etc.But last night we had sex but he decided to take my top off me, I was a little worried as I've been hiding it, he had a good look at me and we carried on, but all I could think was "oh my god, he must think I look horrible, he's seen me naked!" I know it's stupid, but it's the only thing I don't like showing. But now I want to know, guys in your mind, when you have a "sex friend" and you're with someone who isn't the typical skinny...what goes through your mind? Do you care about things like this? I'm confident as anything with the top, I just lose it when the top is off.Now I'm wondering what's going through his mind, as he doesn't exactly tell me when I ask. I know I shouldn't worry as we only have sex, but still! Thanks for any advice! X Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 September 2014): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks guys for your advice. I guess I do care about him, and we have had the conversation already but it won't be a relationship. He basically said he doesn't have time for a relationship (personally it's ball In my mind) . But I enjoy the sex so much with him that I've kept going, and he told me he's going travelling in November so It will end there. He said he's starting to get feelings for me too, he gets jealous if I'm out with male friends and tries to control that by asking if I've slept with anyone else. He kept asking it about 4 months ago but I stopped him. Now he's playing it cool. So it's like whiplash with him sometimes. Don't really know what's in his head. But I'm being cynical and thinking its a head f*ck. if I text him and he ignores it then I leave it. But if he texts me and I ignore it or don't rely for a fee hours he bombards me with messages. He once even turned up outside mine when I had my mum visiting me! He confuses me, that's why I wonder what goes through his mind.Xx
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reader, sugarplum786  +, writes (4 September 2014):
 Sounds like he liked what he saw and was comfortable as he still got off.
I have to ask why you in a just sex relationship with a guy whom you pretty much care about his opinion of your body? I would suggest you look to either figure what you really want from this relationship and speak to the guy or get out of this relationship as the risk with FWB if one person finds someone else the one who has invested a lot more gets hurt. Sounds like its not only time to be comfortable with who you are but to also define this relationship or you risk getting hurt.
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reader, TasteofIndia  +, writes (4 September 2014):
 Here's my thought -
Dude has been seeing you *almost* naked for a year. He's been DYING to know what's underneath it all. And finally, he did. I'm sure he's so excited about finally uncovering the goods, that he was not getting trivial about every little nook and cranny. It has not been a secret that you're curvy. He's just been excited to see those curves in all their glory.
No worries, sweet!
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (4 September 2014):
 Deep breath! you are who you are...if he don't like it tough t___y said the K___ty but the milk's still good!
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reader, CMMP +, writes (4 September 2014):
Everyone is different. End of story. Some guys live morbidly obese women, some guys like curvy women with bellies, some guys like 'average' women and some guys even like skinny women. There's no way we can know what he thought.
What you need to start do I g is learning to live yourself and you'll attract a man who loves you. Hiding your body is not a solution as you may attract guys who don't like size 16's when you SHOULD be embracing it and attracting a guy who loves your body.
Believe me there are plenty who would.
If you can never learn to accept your body as it is then you should begin a weight loss plan.
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reader, Brokenv  +, writes (4 September 2014):
You stated that he took a good look and carried on. So it liked what he saw.
I don't care how much clothes you wear when you are in bed or out. If you are a big girl, you are a big girl.
By the way, size 16 and curvy is what a lot of men enjoy. I would say your friend is enjoying your company for over a year.
NOT AN ISSUE!
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