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writes:Background/Context:I'm a man (18yo) dating a man (23yo). We live in London and for the purpose of this, the person I'm dating is called John.We met like many online, through a well-known dating app for smartphones with a reputation. However, I consider myself different from the majority of users. I am too emotional, sensitive and get attached too easily to engage in 'hookups' or 'one night stands'. My profile clearly states this.Our first date consisted of drinks at a bar near his work. We bumped into a close friend of this (genuine accident) and I could see before he explained that this person was of great importance to him, which was lovely to see.Never having been successful in a relationship, I was pleasantly shocked to be asked on a second date. This time a short shopping trip for a few things for his work followed by a walk around the sights of london, coffee, the cinema, before parting with a hug.I was even more shocked to return from a holiday for John to ask if once again we could see each other. Of course I gladly accepted. This time consisted of a restaurant, stargazing, John very passionately kissing me for the first time.Many of my friends say that this is somewhat of an achievement in itself. Getting to a third date and only just having kissed him. Things are going slowly this time, and it's paying off.However, I will be off to university at the end of the month. 3 hours by train to London. I always have been willing to commit within any relationship and this has not changed even though it may become rather long-distance. As long as John is willing to commit (which he has hinted at), then I am too. I will forever live in the fear that he will find someone better (more attractive, more interesting perhaps) and someone who he can see daily. But for now I'm thinking of the present.Question:Where to go on a 4th date? I've never got this far, this serious with anyone before.Gay-friendly/secluded (nothing explicit though).John has a good appetite so food has to be factored in.My budget is small.Somewhere accessible by Underground/London Overground.Something different from previous dates.
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reader, RubyBirtle +, writes (4 September 2014):
If the weather is still holding you could take a picnic to one of London's many public parks - there are so many to choose from. And some will be stunning in the autumn.It might seem a bit weird but, especially if your guy is into history, Highgate cemetary is beautiful and lots of very famous people are buried there (including Karl Marx) It's certainly peaceful and there are far fewer people around than Hyde Park for example. (although you can take a romantic rowing boat out onto the Serpentine in Hyde park)If your guy likes eating, you could suggest that you go and pick blackberries for dessert too!Some of London's museums and art galleries are still free. You can find some peace and quiet if you stay away from the main exhibits. Most places will have restaurants and cafes attached to themIf you're willing to splash out a bit of cash - find out about fringe theatre or even amateur theatre companies where you can see a good show but without the ridiculous West End prices.And if you can afford it - splash out on a trip to Kew Gardens or a boat trip down the Thames or even a spin in the London Eye. I hope I've given you a couple of ideas - have fun
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