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26-29,
*rinityHunter
writes:So there's this guy, we'll call him D, he always flirts with everyone but he is always doin' sexual stuff to me in class, such as stuff like grabbin' my butt, pokin' me in my boob, runnin' his finger up across my butt, or vibrating it, all in a joking way. Why would he flirt with everyone but only do that kind of stuff to me? We always joke around with everyone else about how he's my "babydaddy" and everything else but I've never actually said anything to him about really wanting to do that. What does he really think and want and why with me???
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (6 November 2011):
 Because he's a hormonal teenager that has not been brought up properly and taught to respect women and keep jokes within the limits of good taste and acceptable social boundaries. He finds you sexually attractive and he shows it in this uncouth way.
The real question is, why do you allow him to do it ?? Do you enjoy it ??? Do you like to be poked and prodded like cattle in public ??
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 November 2011): He is not the only guy who sees you and has sexual thoughts about you. But he is the only one who does inappropriate things about it which shows no respect for you.
Go seek out a different BF. You can get just as much sexual attention from someone else who actually respects you.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (6 November 2011):
 Because he is a disrespectful asshat. Slap his hand next time he lays a finger on you and tell him to keep his mitts to himself.
Don't let some clown grope you like that.
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reader, aunt earnest +, writes (5 November 2011):
 He is probably a confused teenage boy who doesn't even know what he wants and thinks himself. He likes girls and their bodies, and has found that he can touch yours in public without major consequences. You really should not let him, though, because it will only encourage him to treat you and other girls and women with disrespect. I think that what he wants is exactly what he is getting, and that is not a good thing. You should tell him to stop (if he calls you a prude or something, don't mind. It is better than being constantly felt up by some hormonal boy :) and that you do not appreciate his treatment of you. Boys secretly admire those girls who can stand up for themselves, and they have no respect for girls who are only sex objects.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 November 2011): Your age comes up as 13-15 so I don't mean to sound old fashioned but that behaviour is really inappropriate for your age. He is being a typical teenage boy who has an interest in girls but has no idea how to behave. Feeling you up like that is a bit insulting really, you deserve more respect than that so be wary of this lad and by all means remain friends but what he is doing isn't how regular adults would flirt! When you're in a relationship with someone then people might behave like that as a joke but this guy is probably raging with hormones (like any teenager) and is just getting his kicks from behaving like that toward you because he is attracted to you and doesn't know any other way to show it. I would be cautious only for your own feelings because you don't want to confuse his actions as a sign of love as it seems it is just lust.Take care x
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 November 2011): He IS the typical high School jerk. If he's touching you like that and saying things like that, his only intention is to get you in his bed. He has no respect for you. If you cave into his behaviors, he'll ignore you after he has got what he wanted from you. Its the same thing that happen to my bff, I'm hoping you take these advices, because WE know the outcome and do not want you to get hurt.
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reader, Abella +, writes (5 November 2011):
 you have identified yourself as smarter than the average. Something has driven you to write and ask a question about this guy. And well should ant nice girl ASK WHY this silly guy behaves this way.This disrespectful little twerp has no idea of boundaries. His behavior has nothing to do with 'desire' for anything. He knows nothing about finesse, good manners nor respect.He is on the lookout for the 'easiest' girl willing to be his 'test dummy'.Next time he tries make fun of him. Clearly he'd be happy with a a hockey stick with a skirt pinned to it.This guy is bad news. And the genuine real deal aforesaid MORON IDIOT.He is pushing, pushing, hoping to find someone, anyone with self esteem so low that she cannot comprehend that his actions represent Indecent assault (yes Police will tell you there is such a charge for his actions). Plus the guy knows so little about the right way to treat a girl respectfully that he thinks a Bull in a China shop approach will suffice.The guy is nothing but a fool. The sooner you turn your back on him the best. Please tell any other girl who may be unsuspecting of his intentions. No one has ever told, it would appear, this very silly guy that he needs to stop touching what he can't have. I suspect his intention is to try to leave a string of broken hearts all over town. Except the smart guys will stay away. The smart girls will know they can do much better if they wait a couple of years. And then find a truly respectful guy. Well done for being smart enough to question and think through
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