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writes:i am a girl of 22 years old and im still a virgin but just started dating a guy few months ago and i think im ready to have sex, i believe in sex after marriage but the problem is i am not ready to get married and i'm affraid that maybe i am commiting a sin as i am a christian....pleasee help what does abtinence untill marriage mean?
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 September 2011): The thing is my bf proposed a marriage and i denied but hes the one i wanna spend the rest of my life with.
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reader, Hugh.J  +, writes (7 September 2011):
 It's not a sin; just be careful.
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reader, Denise32  +, writes (7 September 2011):
 It means you don't have sex until after you get married.
Are you and the man you are dating ready to make a commitment to one another? Which means you will not date or sleep with anyone else? Keep in mind there are men around who will do almost anything to get a girl to sleep with him, with no intention of having a real, committed, caring relationship. That's known as "using her" for his own gratification.
A lot of people, Christians or not, do have sex without being married. Technically, yes, it is considered to be something you don't do, unless married.
You wouldn't want to have a baby if you were single, now would you? I know women often do get pregnant, but bringing up a youngster from the time he/she is born until old enough to be finished with school, and out in the world earning their own living, is very difficult, emotionally and financially,especially if a woman is raising the child all by herself without any kind of assistance from the father, no matter how much you may love your son or daughter. Besides, children need BOTH parents.
If, after thinking this through very carefully, you decide to have sex with your boyfriend, make sure you both use reliable contraception methods - the simplest being for him to wear a condom - and for you to take birth control pills.
You also need to know that a man is free from any sexually transmitted diseases (STDs) including, most importantly, that he is not HIV positive.
I hope you can sit down with your bf and discuss this with him and find out what he wants from the relationship, and of course, what YOU want. You say you're not ready to get married yet. Do you mean not ready to marry THIS man, or to marry anybody at present? If so, take your time and don't rush into anything.
Hope this helped. Expect you'll be hearing from other aunts and uncles.....
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 September 2011): abstinence until marriage means that you will not have sex until you are married. As a christian we are taught that it is a sin, but it is up to whether or not to do it. I hope this helps. Good luck
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