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26-29,
*rettyGirlRock
writes:So i kindof liked this guy, and he liked me in about a month, he got 2 2nd base with me then told me things were complicated and he couldnt have any type of relashionship right now. Which kindof hurt, so i told him i wouldnt bother him anymore, and i would just leave him alone. Are text went as following, firsthe said "Sammie dont do that"Me: "dont do what"*Him:"Dont leave me"Me: "Why not?"Him:"Because thats not what i want"Me: "What do you want?"Him:"A friend"Me:"I'd be a terrible friend"Him:"Why?"Me: "Because i'm a terrible, bitchy, stubbern person"Him: "I can handle that"Me:(Just giving him more excuses why i wouldn't be a good friend"Him:"Sammie i'd be honered to have you as a friend. please?"Me: "Why do you want me as a friend so much?"*Him:"Because you seem fun. And i dont want to loose that!"Me: "How do i seem fun?"*Him:"You seem fun in a way i'd love to be around you."Out of everything he said the ones with stars before his text stood out the most to me. Maybe i'm reading to much into this. But he still acts the same way we did before. But what do you think the text he sent could mean? I mean do you think that he means what he said, or what he says has multipul meanings??
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reader, PrettyGirlRock +, writes (10 January 2011):
PrettyGirlRock is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI'm sorry annonymous female reader don't think u understood that currectlly. He didn't want me 2 leave him alone. And he told me he still had feelings 4 me as more than a friend
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 January 2011): I'm sorry 2 say this angel but he's just not that into you he wants a friend not a girlfriend and it sounds like he's letting you down easily. Girls always make thinking too deeply about things if he said its not what he wants then that's what he means
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (8 January 2011):
 I think the kind of friend he has in mind is a sort of Friend with Benefits.
He told you he did not want a relationship AFTER he got to 2nd base with you - he could have told you before, right ?
Maybe he did not expect your reaction, and now he does not want to lose a "fun " "friend ", translation, a conveniently approachable girl that he can fool around with, maybe more, at his terms and conditions- no relationship, no exclusivity etc.
I really really think that when he talks about your "friendship " he is not refererring to a meeting of your minds.
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reader, cat lady +, writes (8 January 2011):
 Maybe he had second thoughts about the way he treated you earlier and texting is much easier than face to face. He can keep the situation at arm's length this way. So can you. If I were in your place, I'd keep that distance for a while.
However, the translation of his initial behavior likely is, "you served your purpose and now I'm no longer pursuing you" and I hope for your sake you never put yourself in that situation again. Do not jump into bed with people you don't know well - unless of course, all you want is the one-night-stand and you have no interest in a second performance. Don't lead with your chin in new relationships; too much potential for getting hurt.
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