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writes:I posted my problem originally here:http://www.dearcupid.org/question/my-husbands-boss-is-making-increasingly-weird-demands.htmlI can give you some more info on the context of the situation. My husband works for a firm that distributes computing equipment and closed-circuit television systems.When my husband finished work today, I asked him what the management system was like, and he said to me that the boss manages everything directly and is very hands-on. He also said his old boss passed it on to his brother (who's 2 years younger than him) - the boss has 2 brothers who he's met at the work social functions. He said that the new boss has direct control of everything and likes to be involved directly. My husband made no mention of a HR department though.He told me that work was again hell today, as the boss again demanded that people have a meeting with him. They did, but viewed it with suspicion - and my husband felt disgusted by the boss's latest demand - that all the staff take photos of HIM in his underwear.They refused, including my husband, and the boss said he would suspend them if they didn't at some point this week.He also demanded that the employees bring him nachos with jalapenos and cheese sauce and salsa dip - EVERY SINGLE ONE of the employees!My husband looked and felt stressed when he mentioned this to me, and said he still feels frightened to go in tomorrow, but knows he has to go in to earn money and that he has a contract to be there for the next 4 years. He said if he could find another job doing the same thing, he would.How can he and the rest of the employees deal with it? He just keeps feeling more and more stressedI felt
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reader, wonderingcat  +, writes (2 March 2009):
 Read back the responses in your previous posting, as well as Jessica04's and Tisha's below.
This is something that only a specialized advocacy and/or legal group/organization can guide you in the right direction.
Abuse is a basic human rights violations, regardless if it done by an individual or by a privately owned company. If you have seen the movie "Erin Brockovich" with Julia Roberts, or "North Country" with Charlize Theron, think in those terms. Get external help (legal aid, lawyer, human rights groups). Get internal support (rally your husband's colleagues, get proof, get all contracts copied, etc etc etc).
You live in the States. Your boss or the company can be sued if they found that your boss has violated against the law. With the first movie (EB), they get money from the class action suit. With NC, she just wanted her job back.
Start working on the advice given in these two postings already. Before your husband (and his colleagues) get into a deep depression.
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reader, ArmyMedic +, writes (2 March 2009):
 As I said last time get legal advise, join a union, go on strike. This is in no way right or normal!
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (2 March 2009):
 Has this boss had a medical exam recently? I mean, his bizarre behavior sounds like he's got a brain tumor or something.
Is this boss married? Has anyone spoken to his wife?
Look, the only thing I can suggest is that your husband and his fellow employees seek the assistance of an attorney specializing in labor law. If it's a private company, I'm not sure there's a lot anyone can do, but there may be some way to protect your husband and his colleagues from this strange person ruining their careers.
Take a copy of the contract to the attorney and see if it actually could be enforced. Sometimes they are written by the employer to scare the employee into staying with the company and not going to a competitor, but it is my understanding that those types of contracts are very difficult to enforce.
Get an attorney; protect your husband's rights here.
Good luck.
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reader, jessica04 +, writes (2 March 2009):
 They need to all seek legal counsel. They may be able to file a class action suit against this guy for sexual harassment, emotional stress, etc. Just because he owns the company (assuming) does not mean he can threaten employees. If he is found to have violated these work place laws, all the employee contracts will be made void, and your husband can seek other means of work.
He needs to rally his workmates and find legal help. This guy needs to be stopped.
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