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What do you make of this conversation between my ex and I?

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Question - (1 June 2010) 3 Answers - (Newest, 2 June 2010)
A female United States age 36-40, *earAlice writes:

what do you guys think of this conversation me and my ex had... mind you we've only been broken up for a week

May 26 at 7:43pm

me:

why are you making yourself sound like i didnt give a s**t about you. your such a lame. i BEGGED ON MY KNEES for you to be with me again and you spit on my feet. if you want to go around making people think your such a poor soul then go ahead. because you and i both know that it was really you who gave up not me. (dont worry about your rep i'm not going around telling people your heartless) just dont make me out to be the bad guy when you and i both know that my loyalty was 100000% to you. yeah i might of took my things a left but it was you who let me.

you gave up. i just hope you soon realize that i was VERY GOOD to you in every way possibe. i made sure you had anything i could give you and more if that. you let a person who adores the ground you walk on and ALWAYS had your back just walk right out your door with not even a tear drop goodbye.

i know it was me who up and left but i try'd correcting it less than an hour of me leaving.

you just saw it an an opportunity to move on..... why not right? you have money now, you can talk to anyone you want and not worry about keeping it from me. you can do whatever... BECAUSE YOU WHERE NEVER IN LOVE LIKE I WAS. your a fool. i only benefited you when you had nothing. and now that you dont need me i'm trash? lmao whatever. i hope you have a good ride and see that you messed up

him:

leave it to you to manipulate any situation into you being the victim and me doing the wrong. id be shocked, but its not at all surprising. so go head and bulls**t whoever you want with whatever story and lie to yourself to justify your actions. you leaving me has been a long time coming on your part. remember who dropped who. im just not going back to someone who did what you did to me. and of course to you, you did nothing. and no, you didn't try fixing it an hour later. so f**k that. plus, you chose to wipe away everything. there's no fixing that. i told you to be sure of what you were doing. i wasnt gonna fight you if you knew what you were doing and wanted to still leave. so go f**k your bulls**t about me taking the opportunity and not being in love. you knew, you left, without a tear, you lost out on me. i was the one trying to get you out of that life. so go shove your manipulation. its seen through by me.

me:

Oh whatever. I didn't and don't tell people anyhing that didn't happen. I'm telling you this not anyone else. It's just pissing me off that now all of a sudden your acting as if you didn't have me in your life ever, as of you and I didn't share s**t. I'm stupid to think you and I would last. I'm stupid to think that no matter what we whent through we'd stick together " desi you and I will never part, no matter what we'll be together" A YEAR ACE A F***ING YEAR WE'VE BEEN TOGETHER AND ALL OUR HARD WORK FOR NOTHING. it just pisses me off that we couldn't make it work. I feel like you gave up and let me go. You helped me leave. Why? Why wouldn't you stop me? Why didn't you cry with me? I gave you my soul....... Call it bulls**t call it manipulation call it whatever you WANT!!!! BUT THIS IS ME, THIS IS MY HEART AND YOU NOT.BEING A PART OF MY LIFE MAKES ME HURT INSIDE..... it might go away and it might not hurt as much but I know for damn sure it will never be fixed, never be the same. You and I know the truth. It was a 2 way thing, I blame myself but we know you could have stoped me, you know that any little " sorry desi" or even hug could of made my anger go away. I'm sorry I left .... But why say it again when you already know that.

him:

i could have, f**k that. my point exactly. u leave it all on me to fix it when youre pissed. uh uh, i don't think so.

me:

dude your act like i never fixed things, like i didn't try... maybe you've done it lately but i did it in the past.

i'm so disappointed in us. and believe it or not a lot of people are. they where shocked to know we're not together.

like i said b4 its ok if you dont want to take me back, i cant force you but dont make me out to be a disloyal asshole when you know i care about you so much.

you are my friend not just a page in my story. remember that.

him:

its not a matter of not wanting you back, its a matter of not being able to take you back after the things you said and did, not to mention what youre still saying. tell people to be disappointed in that. and i always tried to fix my mistakes, our entire relationship. difference is again, i never dumped you

me:

OH MY F***ING GOODNESS!!!! i've done everythign you've asked for. the crying, the begging .. knowing full well people would look at me and call me weak, school, income, f***ing hell man is there anything ELSE!! i could of filled an entire bathtub up with my sorry's and my tears. i mean s**t. i have NEVER AND I MEAN NEVER cared about anyone like you.

i'm not perfect damn it but i know when i have messed up and i know when i have to make things right i just cant change the fact that it happened...... but i can chance what will happen after that.

i wish you can be a girl for just a day and see what its like not having period even though you know your supposed to have one MONTHLY and on top of that not sleeping like normal people. its not fun nor does it make you the nicest person in the world..... why am i even telling you this. i feel so stupid right now. why do i keep trying....dont know, i really dont know..Why can't I just let you go? Why is this so hard for me to do?! I wish to be half as strong as you

yes i do. because i love you idiot!!!

him:

you did let me go. thats why things are over. its not me being strong, i just cant go back to you. its for my well being that i let go as hard as it is and as much as it hurts. so get over your whole f***ing trip, you dont know how much i am hurt. you left after you shattered the pieces. and its only on me, my friends, and my fam to put them back together.

me:

you have no clue. and it looks like you never will have a clue.

i cant let you go stupid. you mean to much to me. and you can go back to me you just choose not to. i'm sure people are telling you not to get back with me and i cant change that. i'm hearing it to, but the heart wants what it wants and i cant stop it from wanting you.

have you ever broken up with someone and fought for there love? has some one ever broken up with you and you try'd to get them back with them?

you just dont want to. YOU JUST DONT WANT TO. you think i'm going to RUIN YOUR LIFE AND DO WHAT WITH IT?

brake your heart? because when 2 people are broken together they are happy.

take your money? NO i've never wanted that

cheat on you? i wouldn't dare

lie to you? i never have.

what? why am i so bad? because i wont give up? because i want to make you happy? because i'm sorry?

we can be together and be happy if we let ourselves, people have gone through way worse than we have and they are going on YEARS now. sure they might not be happy all the time but they cant see themselves growing old with no one else.

i dont care what anyone tells me. i dont care if they think i'm begging or making myself look like a fool because i love you. and i cant see myself growing old with anyone else.

him:

oh well. you left me. so stop f***ing stop. your guilt is unwanted. you f***ed this over. deal with it. i dont wanna hear it. ima take your s**t tomorrow, so stop messaging me.

me:

Plus you need to get over the "you took everything" s**t. I begged like no other and you still said no so shut up. Plus, you act like you didn't do s**t like your the angel and I just snap for no reason. Like you didn't throw money down the stairs and slam the door on my back. F**k that. You where being inconsiderate that day and I was full of rage hormones and sleep deprived. Go ahead and blame it all on me bunny because I don't give a s**t anymore. You don't care so why the f**k should I.

the truth is i really do care and i cant sleep or eat or even be myself anymore... my heart is broken.

what should i do?

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A female reader, DearAlice United States +, writes (2 June 2010):

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DearAlice agony auntthank you very much for the answers..... i feel stupid because he gave me hope and we where going to get marries and now this is happening... i just feel like everything i knew was a lie.

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A female reader, Miamine United Kingdom +, writes (1 June 2010):

Miamine agony auntsigh.. sounds like you two broke up for stupid reasons.. your both stubbon, and you like to shout and prove yourself right, but neither of you like to do much listening.

He's asked you to leave him alone, and he's decided he can't do this "fall in love and break up again". I suggest you leave him alone for now, you both need to cool down.. everyone is shouting and swearing, but nobody is doing much listening.

You've told him you love him, you've tried to explain, but he's not hearing you. Give it a week, and if you can stay calm, I suggest you call him and try talking to him again.

But if he continues to swear and abuse you, then leave him alone.. no man is worth that type of abuse, and if you beg and plead, he may come back, but he'll always throw it in your face and he'll make you feel guilty and sad.

It's only been a week, things are still raw, you both need space and time to calm down and miss each other. Stay close to your family and friends, that's what he's doing at the moment.

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A male reader, CaringGuy United Kingdom +, writes (1 June 2010):

More to the point, why on earth are you still in contact!! This is a mess. End contact now and move on. This is just a mess that won't be fixed. Just cut him out.

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