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writes: Ok, so I'm 18 and I just graduated from High school, my teacher is 26 and she constantly texts students, I dont know how much she texts the other but with me its atleast 20 a day, we talk all the time and we hang out after school, shes gone with me to colleges and to my graduation party. Shes given me a lot of helpful advice.I usually like the older crowd, most of my friends were seniors when I was a feshman/sophomore, and I prefer older women, because of there experiences and maturity. However I am still 18 and tend to act my age. Now I seriously like my teacher shes amazing, one of the most down to earth people ive met. I thought it was one sided but after all the texts and and frequet use of ":)" I'm kind of confused, one of my friends and a few of my family members says that they think she likes me because after observing us shes always hangng on to me and she has played with my hair in class and she constantly hugs me, but I dont know what to do, I want to ask her out but I dont want to ruin our friendshipPlease help!!!
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reader, odeer123  +, writes (8 June 2010):
 Hey you should go for it!! She plays with your HAIR?????!! Damn she likes you! Of course she does! Why would she touch a guys hair who she didn't like!? She wouldn't know where its been!!
Common, see the bigger picture - you're old enough now to make grown-up decisions, as is she! Make a move - and if she accepts, good for you! If she doesn't, its an experience worth remembering for the future.
I don't think if she rejects you your relationship with her would be ruined. On the contrary, now both parties will know how close friends you are. Sure you might need to take a step back and rethink your feelings, maybe even remould them- I know this sounds hard, but who wants unrequited love?
Give it a go, in any case. The age difference is not a big deal. As I said, you are both adults, and even if it doesn't work out you will both be able to deal with THAT as adults.
Texting, playing with hair, hugging... I think you know where this is going, you're just asking permission to go ahead! Well... I say GO AHEAD!
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reader, TimmD +, writes (1 June 2010):
 I agree, you should ask her out. But it doesn't have to be in a nervous or formal way like "Will you be my girlfriend?". Just keep it informal, maybe asking her to lunch. If there is a lot of physical contact between you two (non sexual) then there is a good chance she likes you.
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reader, boydjohn026 +, writes (1 June 2010):
I dated one of my students. She was 17 at the time. We had a great sex life for about 5 years, until she married. During that five years, we had two children out of wedlock. I still see her once in a while.
If I were you, I would ask her out. You never know what you might be missing.
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reader, Gabrielle Stoker +, writes (1 June 2010):
 I take it she's now your ex-teacher, so that certainly reduces the creepiness factor a lot. Your dilemma exists for every kid who's ever wanted to take a friendship to another level. You'll never know unless you ask. At 26 she's not that much older than you - it's worth a shot.
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