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anonymous
writes:My fiance and I have been together on and off since middle school. He was logged in to my computer and forgot to log out so I glanced at the first page of his email (being nosey) and seen that he had registered with a dating website. I then clicked on the link and went to the site where it was for men looking for sugar mommas. I logged in under his name to see exactly what it was and came across his profile, which he used a fake birthdate,and hometown to create.It basically said that he was looking for an older woman from the ages of 35-40 to please her, etc. The profile was created 10/4/08 and he hadnt logged on or anything since he made it.Both of us are in our 20's and I can't understand why he would create profiles on dating websites when we have been together for so long? Since I did slip thru the email I am not sure if I should say anything to him about seeing it. I also seen where he had registered with free porn websites. We had this porn issue before around the beginning of the year where I told him I thought that he was obsessed with it and that if he didnt stop we werent going to be together. Well he uses his laptop so now I cant see if he goes on to the websites or not..so I am puzzled. We found out that we are expecting a baby a few months back so I dont know why he would begin doing stupid things like this to jeopardize his relationship...especially now. I havent gained any pregnancy weight so it cant be that my appearance have changed or anything. I consider myself to be attractive. Even with being pregnant, men still approach me(even my ex when I see him out). I just need some advice on what to do. This may be the beginning of something that I have to deal with for the rest of my life with him, and I just wont tolerate it! I would like to hear what others would do in this situation when their man is looking at porn,logging on to dating websites, and God knows what else as far as the computer goes. I honestly don't think that he would go out and meet with these women, so what is the point in creating profiles?
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 December 2008): Print these forums and leave them next to the PC or the mags, whatever he does.
Whe he reads them he might understand better how you feel.
There are so many of us women in the same situation and while doing this helped our marraige it may not help in your case, but is well worth a try...good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 November 2008): My husband signed up on a few of the dating/sex sites about 6 months ago and I just found out. I am totally crushed. I have lost the respect and trust I had for him. First he lied about looking at them and then lied about joining them and then lied about the information and his activity in them. I don't know what to do about our marriage because I don't believe a word he says about anything. I feel like I don't know who he is.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 November 2008): If it was just porn, it wouldn't be that much of a deal.It's the dating profiles that need to be worried about.It's one thing to watch naked people having sex in porn films, its another realm entirely to actively seek out such an encounter with anyone other then your spouse.Either tell him to stop or leave him.Flynn 24
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reader, Bryanz +, writes (20 November 2008):
As a male speaking, the male mind is very complex and a lot difernt then females. A lot of guys just want in girls pants, all I can say is if he is looking at pornography and signing on dating sites, does he honestly love you? If your expecting a baby, he should support you and help you. But if other then that, hes trying to get sex. He probly just wanted in your pants, check for signs in your house and try to get into his computer again. Guess his passwords, I know that sounds very nosey but it just might help you find out some stuff. Like.. get him a lie detector. I know, they cost a lot of money but like, if he was a true boyfriend or husband he wouldn't be trying to sleep with other girls. Im sorry to be like this, I just can't handle cheating very well and in my opinion, if my girlfriend slep with another giy. It'd be bye-bye with no hesitation.
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